MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Sunday, January 22, 2012

FOSTER CARE IN N.C.: "to be or not to be"?!?!

In my opinion, this disclosure in general has been a long time coming. For me, exposing this is the "takeaway" good news of the month here in North Carolina.While it was posted in a Hickory, NC paper, by no means is my rant focused on this agency, limited to Hickory, or even to North Carolina.

Are some foster kids over-medicated? Interesting question. No-brainer answer. YES!!! (And it is even more despicable to watch the "system" rationalize it in all its steps!) That system (a true example of "trickle-down" ethics) is drenched in decisions of profit and convenience for the system, but with little respect for the welfare and highest good of the child. Truth be told, if a child's life and emotional well-being were not at stake, observing the dynamics is almost perversely humorous. Many "systemic sustainers" who love, at times, to use the monicker "healer" ... should hightail it for the Cannes movie festival!

With long experience working with foster care in this state, and observing the abuses from which "the system" dispassionately turns its eyes, I remain convinced that most foster care is a necessary evil. 

Sitting in a case management meeting is a head-shaking experience, and is often a microcosm of the dysfunction of our culture. The motto might as well have been, "Save and accrue the buck, so that it passes state investigation (generally a travesty of a process anyway!), but the kid be damned!" 

Any professional adult (mental health care, foster care and group home systems, social services, etc.) who interrupts this schizophrenic process is more at risk than one of the state's abused children. Many of these children, who are in a foster home due to a "stated" effort to save them from abusive homes, receive even more abuse in foster homes ... sexual and otherwise. Emotional abuse, because "we can't leave marks", is sometimes so horrific that one wonders how the child can put one single confident foot into the next day. To make matter even worse, when the kids' behaviors sometimes reflect the corruption of the systems, they again are harshly punished.  The old "blame the victim" paradigm. The systemic efforts to cover up are interesting and oh-ever-so-slick!

If you are interested in less-than-unimpressive outcomes (and isn't that the operant word in federal and state care?!), give this site a glance.  You may find yourselves shocked:

It was a rare foster parent with whom I worked whose TRUE caring for the children they had in their care, put the highest good of the child as a priority. Oh, they talked a good game, but were generally so transparent, the process was "Ridiculosity Unplugged"!  It did not take ten minutes, combined with a good amount of intuition, to understand that the money (not insignificant, I might add) drove the foster parents. Many had up to 3-5 foster children in their home. Multiply what the parents get for that, along with benefits for the child, and you will begin to get the point. Of course, I get that it costs money to raise a child in any family, but when one really adds up the "change", outside of any foster parents' income, it is quite interesting! Many natural parents would be thrilled to be receiving the money and benefits into their family coffers.

Rat study throws new light on animal consciousness - rats behave with empathy

(NaturalNews) An animal whose very name is often used as an insult may harbor more "human" traits like compassion than previously suspected. A recent study by University of Chicago researchers suggests that rats are capable of behavior which


READ MORE: Rat study throws new light on animal consciousness - rats behave with empathy

Mitt Romney Wouldn't Know a Free Market If It Bit Him on the Ass /AlterNet

At Bain Capital, Romney used the tax code to redistribute wealth from taxpayers to his investors and partners.....


READ MORE: Mitt Romney Wouldn't Know a Free Market If It Bit Him on the Ass | Economy | AlteryNet

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Disgusting: Wall Streeters Mock Occupy and Poor People at Fancy Frat Party | AlterNet

One of the things that makes Wall Streeters so unsympathetic is that, even when disdain for their greed has not just spread across America but across the world, they don't seem to realize it. 


And if they do? Well, they don't give a flying fuck......


READ MORE: Disgusting: Wall Streeters Mock Occupy and Poor People at Fancy Frat Party | AlterNet

SOPA STRIKE - Largest online protest in history - January 18 - blackout your site

READ THE STUNNING FACTS: SOPA STRIKE - Largest online protest in history - January 18 - blackout your site

BBC Reports on Bilderberg Secret Society

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"10 Reasons the U.S. Is No Longer the Home of the Free"

This morning's email brought a powerful block of "Just the Facts, Ma'am!" from...well, we'll call her Nancy.  She wrote:


Folks, This is a very important and informative article about the erosion of our freedoms in this country!!  Please look into it and follow your own instincts!!
Nancy



READ MORE: http://www.wanttoknow.info/g/land_of_the_free_erosion_of_freedom

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Afghan Child Bride Traded to Pay Opium Debt | Womens eNews


Afghan Child Bride Traded to Pay Opium Debt

Sunday, January 15, 2012
Afghanistan's opium trade impacts the daily lives of Afghans like nothing else, says Fariba Nawa in her book "Opium Nation." In this excerpt she shares the story of Darya, a girl who was sold into marriage to settle an opium debt...
READ MORE: Afghan Child Bride Traded to Pay Opium Debt | Womens eNews

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

"America Has Woken Up to the Reality: Inequality Matters" by Bill Moyers & Michael Winship/ Alter Net

While police have cleared many Occupy encampments, a collective cry, loud and clear, has gone up from countless voices across the country: Enough's enough.......


READ THIS: America Has Woken Up to the Reality: Inequality Matters | Take Action | AlterNet

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

4 Creepy Ways Big Pharma Peddles its Drugs | AlterNet

Big Pharma uses ads that sow hypochondria, raise health fears and sell diseases to adults and their children....

READ MORE: 4 Creepy Ways Big Pharma Peddles its Drugs | Personal Health | AlterNet

"Your Gut Has a Mind of Its Own... Literally" by Ross Pomeroy

Tummies talk to us. Whether it is from pangs of hunger or a sensation of satiety, our guts like to keep in contact. For the longest time, I considered this "communication" to be no more than intelligible mumbling. But a somewhat recent discovery has got me thinking about those burps, bubbles, and gurgles in a whole new light. Because, as it turns out, your gut has a mind of its own......



READ MORE: Your Gut Has a Mind of Its Own... Literally

Monday, January 9, 2012

Robert F. Kennedy Jr.: Mitt Romney's Test of Moral Fiber

I was surprised when Mitt Romney's son, Matt,resuscitated the "birther" issue in New Hampshire on December 29. Speaking at a campaign event, the young Romney deflected a question about his father's refusal to release his income tax return by citing a proposal that President Barack Obama should first release his own birth certificate. Mr. Romney, who has since retracted his statement, apparently did not realize that, at White House urging, the state of Hawaii released the president's long form birth certificate on April 25, 2011.......

READ MORE: Robert F. Kennedy Jr.: Mitt Romney's Test of Moral Fiber

Chemtrails VS. Contrails / You Tube/Discovery Channel

"What Will Love Give You?" Dr. Margaret Paul

Did you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy?

Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story. Even if your parents did love you the way you needed to be loved, if they didn’t role-model loving themselves, then it is likely you absorbed their forms of self-abandonment – judging themselves, turning to various addictions to manage their feelings, and making others responsible for their feelings and sense of worth....

READ MORE:What Will Love Give You?

Chemtrails Validated by History Channel Video

WATCH COMPELLING VIDEO: Chemtrails Validated by History Channel Video

5 Things You Should Know About the FBI's Massive New Biometric Database | Civil Liberties | AlterNet

Civil libertarians worry about the roll-out of Next Generation Identification, a massive expansion of the agency's current biometric database.

READ MORE: 5 Things You Should Know About the FBI's Massive New Biometric Database | Civil Liberties | AlterNet

Why You May Be Drinking Soda That Contains a Dangerous Flame Retardant Banned in Europe and Japan / AlterNet

Some soda drinkers may be getting a dose of a synthetic chemical called brominated vegetable oil, or BVO.
READ MORE: Why You May Be Drinking Soda That Contains a Dangerous Flame Retardant Banned in Europe and Japan / AlterNet

"The Making of the 99%"| The Nation

“Class happens when some men, as a result of common experiences (inherited or shared), feel and articulate the identity of their interests as between themselves, and as against other men whose interests are different from (and usually opposed to) theirs.” —E.P. Thompson, The Making of the English Working Class   The “other men” (and of course women) in the current American class alignment are those in the top 1 percent of the wealth distribution—the bankers, hedge-fund managers and CEOs targeted by the Occupy Wall Street movement. They have been around for a long time in one form or another, but they began to emerge as a distinct and visible group, informally called the “superrich,” only in recent years.
READ MORE: The Making of the 99% | The Nation

Post-Menopause Sex Is Great in So Many Ways | Womens eNews


Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sex after menopause brings more than pleasure. It lowers blood pressure, boosts immunity and reduces pain, according to a mass of evidence that has been piling up in recent years.
READ MORE: Post-Menopause Sex Is Great in So Many Ways | Womens eNews

Intimacy Intensifies in Women's 'Second Adulthood' | Womens eNews


Sunday, January 8, 2012
Despite conventional wisdom dictating that intimacy ends at midlife for women, Suzanne Braun Levine says this is untrue in her new book "How We Love Now." In this except, she describes how love actually changes and deepens.
READ MORE: Intimacy Intensifies in Women's 'Second Adulthood' | Womens eNews

How Doctors Choose to Die – The Sweet Pursuit – Utne Reader

Doctors have the very best medical care at their fingertips. They read journals that publish the latest medical findings; they know the most up-to-date treatments for various ailments and diseases; they might even play golf with a top surgeon or two. And yet, when faced with death, many physicians forgo intensive medical treatment..........

READ MORE.......

Saturday, January 7, 2012

WINDS OF CHANGE for Republicans, Independents, and Democrats ~ Warren Buffet

This morning I received an email being passed around, from Warren Buffet, written in October.  After verifying it through Snopes.com, and discerning that it was refreshing (especially when written by the 1%!), I decided to post it.  It is, as follows:





Winds of Change....
   Warren Buffet is asking each addressee to forward this email to a minimum of twenty people on their address list; in turn ask each of those to do likewise.
 
  In three days, most people in The United States of America will have the message. This is one idea that really should be passed around.
 
   Congressional Reform Act of 2011

1. No Tenure / No Pension.
  A Congressman/woman collects a salary while in office and receives no pay when they're out of office.

2. Congress (past, present & future) participates in Social Security.
All funds in the Congressional retirement fund move to the Social Security system immediately. All future funds flow into the Social Security system, and Congress participates with the American people. It may not be used for any other purpose.

3. Congress can purchase their own retirement plan, just as all Americans do.

4. Congress will no longer vote themselves a pay raise. Congressional pay will rise by the lower of CPI or 3%.                     

5. Congress loses their current health care system and participates in the same health care system as the American people.

6. Congress must equally abide by all laws they impose on the American people.

7. All contracts with past and present Congressmen/women are void effective 1/1/12. The American people did not make this contract with Congressmen/women. Congressmen/women made all these contracts for themselves. Serving in Congress is an honor, not a career. The Founding Fathers envisioned citizen legislators, so ours should serve their term(s), then go home and back to work.
 
If each person contacts a minimum of twenty people then it will only take three days for most people (in the U.S.) to receive the message. Don't you think it's time? 

  THIS IS HOW YOU FIX CONGRESS!
  

Friday, January 6, 2012

"7 Reasons America's Mental Health Industry Is a Threat to Our Sanity" ~ Bruce Levine

Drug industry corruption, scientifically unreliable diagnoses and pseudoscientific research have compromised the values of the psychiatric profession.

CONTINUE READING........

Thursday, January 5, 2012

"How Ayn Rand Seduced Generations of Young Men and Helped Make the U.S. into a Selfish and Greedy Nation: ~ Bruce Levine

Thanks in part to Rand, the United States is one of the most uncaring nations in the industrialized world...
CONTINUE READING.......

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

"The Corporate Psychopaths Among Us" ~ James G. Long/The American Thinker

Hannibal Lecter was a fictional psychopath, but there are much worse psychopaths active in American politics and business today.   "Psychopath" and "sociopath" are each defined as a personality disorder marked by lack of empathy or remorse; the two terms are closely related and are sometimes used interchangeably......



CONTINUE READING.....The Corporate Psychopaths Among Us

Monday, January 2, 2012

How stress is really hurting our kids ~ Thomas Rogers/Salon

New science shows that childhood trauma can cause cancer, heart disease and other problems. An expert explains......

CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING: http://www.salon.com/2012/01/02/how_stress_is_really_hurting_our_kids/singleton/

Why Kids -- and Adults -- Need More Solitude (repost)

I have high esteem for the author of this article..... she FINALLY discusses the tragically missing link in 99% (just stuck on that number!) of articles and essays about education and parenting:

New York City public school educator Diana Senechal talks about the problems with our educational system, the meaning of solitude, and the dangers of immediacy........


CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING THIS IMPORTANT ARTICLE: Why Kids -- and Adults -- Need More Solitude | Personal Health | AlterNet

Schizoid Sexual Society: Focused on the Petty Sex Scandals, Ignoring the Ones That Really Matter | | AlterNet repost

Why isn't it a bigger scandal when politicians chip away at our rights to control our bodies and our sexuality?

CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE: Schizoid Sexual Society: Focused on the Petty Sex Scandals, Ignoring the Ones That Really Matter | | AlterNet

Ernesto Ortiz: "The Akashic Records, One Sure Constant Thing...."


The Akashic Records,
One Sure Constant Thing…

© by Ernesto Ortiz
The fact that we are living in the age of technological advancement and achievement is no mystery, we just have to look back ten to fifteen years. It is quite amazing what we can do now from our homes with computer technology.
Scott Gardner, knowledge management expert explained at the annual meeting for the SMART Toronto Technology Association in early 2003:
The world’s collective library of recorded information is expected to double every 11 hours by the year 2010
So what? We may ask;
It took a millennium and a half (from the year 1 A.D. to the year 1500 A.D.) for humankind's knowledge base to double. It is now doubling about every 15 months.
Eight years from now, it will be doubling every half-day.
Will you be able to keep up when everything you thought you knew at breakfast becomes obsolete before dinner?
So the question is, what will remain constant and true in our lives?
The one thing that does are the laws of Nature. The laws of cause and effect, law of gravity, law of abundance, law of growth, law of love and more.
Our ancestors studied these laws and where able to get to the point of understanding and master the art of living with nature. Living in balance and harmony is an art; it is the art of co-creation. As long as we identify and understand the role of nature in our lives, and how these laws of nature mirror us humans from within, we can then have a greater understanding about ourselves.
The amount of technology out there is mind boggling, so much information built into some of the items we use in our daily lives. Like our cell phones, have many features built in that we don’t need or use. How much time we spend in trying to learn these instruments? PDA’s, cell phones, computers etc. and by the time we do the new one is already out.

Index

All of this is external stuff, and all of it comes with a manual. If we really want to understand it and use it properly, we have to take the time to read and apply what we have learned to the machine. All of this takes precious time, and even then most of the features we will not need or use.
At times I have thought the most complicated and beautiful creation is the human being. It is too bad we don’t come with an instruction manual so our parents, friends and most of all ourselves can read and understand the intricacies of the self.
There is a blue print, a matrix that is built in or encoded within the self. Our DNA plays a big role in this, also ancestral genealogy influences this blue print; we can label it many different things, past lives, Karma, or encoded DNA. The bottom line is, there are patterns sitting in our sub conscious that get activated at different times in our lives that make us do, and act and re-act to situations in many strange ways. That reaction sometimes is very surprising to us. When this happens we can then question, how is it that I reacted like that? Or where that did come from?
Often when our curiosity or desire to know is activated, what many of us do is to go “without” instead of “within” to look for answers to our inner most questions. We may feel something brewing deep within, a desire, or longing. Sometimes we feel uncomfortable because of the way we are handling situations, especially with people we love.
So what do we do…? We go outside the self. We have made some psychics very rich and famous by taking to them many important questions about our inner process. If we don’t we retreat to other worldly distractions, like video games, TV, rock music, gossiping with friends, tarot card readers, palm readers, fortune tellers, etc.
We humans are constantly looking for several things, we make them a life long quest; these things are Love, knowledge, acceptance and validation.
We move through life searching for someone to come and validate our process, someone to share his or her wisdom and knowledge. But life goes on and we continue facing our complications and dealing with the stress of life.
Why do we go outside the self if we have heard and possibly know that “we contain within all the knowledge and wisdom we need”? No one knows more about ourselves that we do!
About 10 years ago I was introduced to the Akashic Records. I remembered reading in different sacred scriptures about the Book of Life or the Book of Knowledge, and also about Akasha.
That word “Akasha” captivated me. It had an energy that took me deep within. It has been my understanding that on this realm, in the Hall of Records there is a volume, a Book of Life that contains our souls progress since inception.
“Wow, cool, very cool if that is the case, where do I go to read it? How do I access this magnificent document”?
The Akashic Records are primordial substance it is the realm where all souls information is contained. It is past, present and the possibility of the unfoldment of future events.
I was taught to open my Akashic Records and it has been the most valuable spiritual tool that I have had in the past ten years.
Going back to Scott Gardner’s information, tells me that all accumulated knowledge will be old or obsolete with the planetary acceleration we are experiencing; though my need for validation and personal knowledge will continue. One thing I do know “universal laws are constant”. The Akashic Records are constant. My spirituality is constant, and that I will continue seeking for Truth and personal knowledge.
Opening the Akashic Records is simple, and every time I “go there” I get a greeting, an outpour of love and compassion from the Lords of Akasha, from the Masters and Teachers. The Akashic Records are the manual, the guidebook for my life. No, I don’t use the Records as a crutch to validate my every day moves, I certainly exercise my free will, but for deep guidance and direction about my life, for inspiration about classes that I teach, lectures, art projects and more, the Akashic Records and the guidance from Masters and Teachers are there.
Opening the Akashic Records is simple. Most of my students are blown away at the simplicity of entering the Akashic realm. Spirit wants to make things simple for us; it is we humans that complicate things. The Akashic Records are part of an ancient tradition and the way is taught and passed is via the oral tradition. There is so much more to learn about the Records other than a simple “Sacred Prayer” to open them. We have to learn how to communicate with the Lords of Akasha and how to translate the information we receive, with this we become confident of our connection and communication, and we open ourselves up to the most caring and sincere guidance and Love.
The Akashic Records are encoded Light language, which is Sacred geometry or words encoded in fire, so learning how to interpret the information is crucial. We start learning to use our inner senses to give words and interpretation to what we receive; we also start getting fine-tuned to this new energy. One of the most important things to know in this communication is the “art of questioning”, in doing this we can get deep, very deep in our conversations with the Masters and Teachers. From these depths of the self is where most significant healing occurs, patterns of addiction, codependency and more surface so we can gain clarity and understanding. Then we can exercise one of the most beautiful gifts we posses, the gift of free will and choice to make the necessary changes in our lives.
Working with my Akashic Records almost daily is wonderful but having the opportunity to open the Records for someone else is an incredible experience, one that I honor and treasure as sacred. The personal transformation that people go through as the result of the energy from the Records is incredible. People can receive information and validation about issues in their lives, while receiving an energy that is most delicious and healing.
We can say that the information is coming to satisfy our need to know, and validate. The energy is coming to heal, as we feel accepted and loved.
As the times change and information change, retreat to the knowledge and wisdom of the Akashic Records for your growth and guidance.

This I assure you will be a most beautiful and profound guiding light in your life.

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Why the White South Is Still in Denial About Slavery

As a resident of North Carolina, I can heartily attest to the facts in this article.  "Down here", they also refute the term "Civil War" (because that might accurately give the issue a flavor of CIVIL RIGHTS!), and refer to it as the "War Between the States" (a phrase which seems to be a little scrap on a primary school playground...ever so much more 'demure'!) My experience is that there are tens of thousands of "pretenders", who graciously assert "Why, honey, I am not biased at all!)  However, due to my proclivity and skill in observation, I so enjoy "watching people watch people", for that really tells the story.  I recall watching a school cafeteria worker watch the "you people" kids in the lunch line.  While she would smile and gush about her lack of bias, her face was scrunched up in a tightened and somewhat cruel affect when she thought no one was looking. I found it shocking (and nothing much shocks me any more!) to observe how lowly she valued these elementary kids! To add that her hubs was a known member of the KKK would have been unnecessary to this story, because her acrimony for anyone unlike her was etched into her face, following decades of hatred.


On a trip through the South, Civil War culture is presented as "authentic." They just leave out the slavery part.....

CLICK HERE TO READ: Why the White South Is Still in Denial About Slavery | Tea Party and the Right | AlterNet

Bullies, Liars and Impostors: How Facebook and Go Daddy Shield Scott Walker's Online Guerillas | Media | AlterNet

A spate of online disinformation, bullying and outright calls for the destruction of recall petitions raise the specter of fraud in the Wisconsin recall petition drive....


CLICK HERE: Bullies, Liars and Impostors: How Facebook and Go Daddy Shield Scott Walker's Online Guerillas | Media | AlterNet

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

"Ten Qualities to Cultivate in Life" by Ernesto Ortiz

"Journey to the Heart" and Ernesto Ortiz:
http://www.journey2theheart.com/akashicrecords.shtml

As a retired psychotherapist, I have experienced this Buddhist quote many times ... both as therapist, and as human: "When the student is ready, the teacher will come." 

My new experience with learning about the Akashic records ... will also be yours, if you so desire.  I have been guided to the site and work of Ernesto Ortiz, and his teachings about the Akashic records.  Today, I present this offering from his site.  The depth of these qualities is indeed quite profound:


Ten Qualities to Cultivate in Life

© By: Ernesto Ortiz
We benefit immensely when we see elders, role models and spiritual guides (gurus) as guides that can teach thoughtfully with specific goals in mind.
In fact the first example that we have of these, our first gurus, are our father and mother. No matter if we like it or not, that was the first influence we had, our first role models. Most parents want the best for their child and they teach by example, explanation and giving advice and direction.
They can only teach as far as they have been able to learn and experience themselves, and many of us as we grow up look outside of the values we were given by these first gurus for something bigger, higher, something we know we can use to uplift our lives to the next level of our own personal potential.
When we think of gurus, we automatically think of teaching. When we look at ourselves as gurus, we realize the importance of our role as teachers with our children (if we have them), friends, co-workers, and the community at large.
Have you ever found yourself giving advice to someone? Where is that advice come from? It comes from your personal experience and in doing that you are acting like a guru.
What that means if we are becoming conscious is that we must be personally responsible for the advice that we give to others and how we take and give to life itself.



Here are ten key qualities we want to possess in order to be happy, spiritual and successful, to live our lives to the fullness of our personal potential. Live them and teach them to your children, and share them with others.

Index

  1. Positive Self-Concept: The confidence that one is a radiant, magnificent, immortal soul worthy of a wonderful life. Giving constructive encouragement and refraining from denigrating remarks or actions, even when correcting misbehavior, creating habits in our lives that nurture this image, learning how to control our previous programming and change our relationship with life. Feeling the radiant Self worth that is within us all.
  2. Perceptive Self-Correction: The ability to quickly draw the lesson from each experience and resolve how not to repeat one’s mistakes. Teaching that mistakes are not bad develops this quality; they are opportunities to learn and refine our behavior.
    Mistakes are the stepping-stones of learning experiences they build character and wisdom.
  3. Powerful Self-Control: The restraint of destructive emotions, such as anger, jealousy, greed, altered ego, when tempted to express them. This is cultivated by example and by referring often to the ten restrains taught in Hinduism known as the Yamas, finding illustrations of them in daily life.
    1. Ahimsa: Non-violence. Abstinence from injury, harmlessness, the not causing of pain to any living creature in thought, word, or deed at any time. This is the "main" Yama. The other nine are there in support of its accomplishment.
    2. Satya: truthfulness, word and thought in conformity with the facts.
    3. Achaurya: non-stealing, non-coveting, non-entering into debt.
    4. Brahmaacharya: Divine conduct, restrain, faithful in relationship.
    5. Kshama: patience, releasing time, functioning in the now, ability to be present.
    6. Dhriti: steadfastness, overcoming non-perseverance, fear, and indecision; seeing each task through to completion.
    7. Daya: compassion; conquering the hardening of the self, cruel and insensitive feelings toward all beings.
    8. Arjava: honesty, straightforwardness, renouncing deception and wrongdoing.
    9. Mitahara: moderate appetite, neither eating too much nor too little; mantaining a healthy diet. Avoid the consumtion of heavy meats.
    10. Shaucha: purity, avoidance of impurity in body, mind and speech.
  4. Profound Self-Confidence: The dignity that endows an individual confronted with a difficult task the certainty that he or she can accomplish it. This is cultivated by helping a child from the early stages of life to gradually accomplish more and more difficult tasks.
  5. Playful Self-Contentment: A disposition that is fun loving, happy, satisfied. This is developed by living and verbalizing the adventure that life is meant to be. To learn to live life joyously, spending fun time together, satisfied with what we have, not dissatisfied over what we lack.
  6. Sacred or Devotional Character: Abidance in the higher nature, treating others with kindness and appreciation, and seeking the blessings of God, Gods and guru. It is cultivated by worship regularly, meditating and prayer.
  7. Proficiency in Conflict Resolution: The knack of resolving disagreements using intelligence and seeking a win-win situation. It is cultivated by example and situation teaching demonstrating how intelligence is superior to violence in dealing with conflict.
  8. Parental and Love Relationship Closeness: An eagerness to spend time with loved ones because of an enduring bond of love and understanding. This propensity is developed by sharing quality time together, expressing love—hugging and saying often the three magic words “I love you,” and by positive, methods of reinforcement.
  9. Prejudice-Free Consciousness: An open-mindedness that readily embraces differences in ethnic background and religion. It is cultivated by living and teaching that the whole world is our family and all beings are divine, by discussing prejudices, mixing with those of other backgrounds and eliminating bigoted remarks or ethnic generalizations.
  10. Gratitude: To be able to look at what life brings us as a wonderful way of learning, with that the opportunity to grow and be better to share with our loved ones and the world with appreciation. To demonstrate our gratitude to everyone for what we have and for what we don’t have. To be grateful for life itself.
I hope that these 10 qualities are reinforced in your life and that the New Year brings you love, happiness and you develop the Mind of Enlightenment.
Om Shanti
Ernesto

SAYING "THANK YOU"

SAYING "THANK YOU!"

By Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.

       "No matter what I do, it isn't good enough."  "No matter how much I
give, it never seems to satisfy."  Over these past holidays, how many
times have we heard, or made, such comments?

       Let's face it.  There are people who, no matter how much they have
or have been given, never appreciate it.  You could pour your heart
out, work until you drop, share until you're empty, and they still
wouldn't acknowledge your effort with a simple "thank you."

       Somehow, it seems that people who need appreciation are often paired
with people who never express it.  They are caught up in a destructive
cycle: the more person A needs to be appreciated, the more he or she
strives for the "thank you's."  The more A seeks appreciation, the
more obligated person B feels to express his or her gratitude.  The
more guilty B feels, the more likely he or she is to rebel and
withhold appreciation.  This leads to further emptiness in person A,
and the subsequent increase in A's need for appreciation.  This cycle
is often experienced during holiday times when "giving" and
"receiving" is expected

       People caught up in this psychological cycle experience life as an
endless dependency, filled with fear, helplessness, hostility, anger
and above all, unfulfilled needs.  Both parties caught up in this
cycle are very needy of personal validation and support.  Both
desperately need to feel appreciated and valuable.

       This helpless-hostile-dependency (HHD) cycle is simple to change in
theory. (You know how simple we psychologists make things... "in
theory")  Changing the HHD cycle in day-to-day living is often very
difficult.

       Breaking the HHD cycle can begin with saying "thank you".  That's
right.  Saying out loud, "I appreciate..." or, "thank you for..." is
the beginning of altering the HHD cycle.

       "Thank you" communicates many messages.  "Thank you" says: I
recognize you; I like you; I appreciate you; I have seen or heard you;
I realize your effort, work or accomplishments; and best of all, I
value who you are and/or what you do.  Feeling valuable for who you
are as a person, as well as what you do, is probably the most
important consequence of receiving "thank you's."  When we feel
value-able, we feel able to be valued...to be cherished...to be loved.

       Feeling value-able means we are important as individuals in and of
ourselves.  When we feel personally valued, we no longer need to
frantically seek approval from others.  We no longer need to feel
frightened of our own inadequacies.  We are valuable for who we are as
persons.  What we do, or our behavior, may or may not be appreciated.
But that isn't as important, if we feel valuable as the individual
persons we are.

       When we are appreciated for who we are, the need for validation is
filled and the old helpless-hostile-dependency cycle is replaced by
one of confident-caring-intimacy (CCI).  No wonder Nobel-prize winner,
Hans Selye, said the most healthy emotion you can experience is one of
gratitude.  Selye's famous research about stress and it's effect on
human health, indicated that "vengeance" was the most harmful emotion.
 "Gratitude" the most beneficial.

       In changing the HHD cycle to the CCI cycle, the importance of the
regular and persistent saying of "thank you" for being you, and "thank
you" for what you do, cannot be over-emphasized.

       Thank you for reading my column today, for responding to it and
especially for being the valuable people you are.


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Dr. Thomas is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and life
coach.  He serves on the faculty of the International University of
Professional Studies. He recently co-authored (with Patrick Williams)
the book: "Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills and
Techniques for Enhancing Your Practice...and Your Life!" (W.W. Norton
2005) It is available at your local bookstore or on Amazon.com.

Friday, December 23, 2011

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"