• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my daughter, my grand daughters, and my grand son. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.

The Definition of Genius


"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."

The degree of our enlightenment is the degree of passion that we will have for the whole world." ~The Greystone Mandala

~The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.

Winston Churchill

"Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Do not go gentle into that good night."

Dylan Thomas


In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Optogentics Allows Neuroscientists to Turn Fear Off and On | Psychology Today

Sweat and the biology of bliss

"Webster's Dictionary defines fear as, "an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat." When was the last time you experienced fear? Is there are a person, place, or activity that fills you with fear? How do you cope with your fear?
As an endurance athlete....... "    

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Eight Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use on Spouses | The Exhausted Woman

yelling-460x307If you have clients who are intentionally exploited by their spouses; endure regular insults and rejection, alternating with affirmation; and feel manipulated into doing or saying something out of character, then they might be experiencing abuse.
Abuse is not just physical. There are many other forms of abuse, such as sexual, financial, emotional, mental, and verbal. While some of the other forms of abuse are obvious, mental abuse by a narcissist can be difficult to spot."    CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING

How To Read People Like an FBI Profiler | Psych Central

"What do you make of a neighbor who’s married, has kids, dresses in a suit daily, rarely misses a day of work, has a well-groomed lawn and a tidy home, is friendly and polite, always asks about your day and your children, and even shovels your snow when you’re out of town? Most people would think this is the best neighbor on the block......"
So you may be surprised to learn that... CLICK HERE to CONTINUE

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Is the Carpool Swimming With Narcissists? | Psychology Today

Meredith Resnick L.C.S.W.

Meredith Resnick, L.C.S.W.
Meredith Resnick, L.C.S.W., worked in direct healthcare and mental health care for more than two decades. As a therapist turned writer, she makes complex topics accessible to all readers, giving right-brained creativity to left-brained concepts and clarity to topics related to human nature that often baffle and confuse. Her goal: to create connections between human beings and their patterns of behavior, between the universal and the personal, the heart and the mind. Her work has appeared in NewsweekBride'sJAMAJournal of Palliative Care.comThe Orange County RegisterLos Angeles TimesNewsdayChicago Tribune, Dancing at the Shame Prom, The Complete Book of Aunts, Fits and Starts, and others. She is the author of Narcissism: Surviving the Self-Involved and Surving the Narcissist: 30 Days of Recovery.
"Parents are bombarded with books about how to parent, but what dealing with other kids’ parents? We're talking the lot of them: the mavens, the bossy ones, the rude ones, the passive-aggressive  ones, the competitive ones, the organized (and disorganized) ones. And what about the parent-sized teacher's pets?  
With school starting, every parent knows that kids are not the only ones who have to deal with seemingly “difficult” peers. There are plenty of parents who get out of control, too. ....."


The Narcissistic Family Tree | Psychology Today

Karyl McBride Ph.D.

"Clinical experience and research show that adult children of narcissists have a difficult time putting their finger on what is wrong, because denial is rampant in thenarcissistic family system...."


Chicken Safety | Chicken Contamination - Consumer Reports

"When you shop at your favorite grocery store, you probably assume that the food on display is safe to take home. But in the poultry aisle, that simple assumption could make you very sick...."  CLICK HERE TO READ MORE

Obama ~ White House Correspondents' Dinner ~ NAILED IT!!

The President nailed it, as did Cecily Strong, and Luther, POTUS "Anger Translator".  Finally (for me) the Hollywood stars' piece was over and the real business of the evening began.  I never miss this event;  this was one of the all-time best.  You can hear it (the reason why we really watched) in this link. That part of the evening was brilliant, cathartic and memorable.


Friday, April 24, 2015

'Just Say No' to the Gateway Theory of Pot - The Atlantic

"Many young adults remember their childhood participation in Drug Abuse Resistance Education, better known by the acronym "D.A.R.E."  One of the program's core messages—along with the idea that you should always shout "NO!" when offered some "really cool drugs to smoke"—is that marijuana is a "gateway" to all sorts of other substances.  D.A.R.E's effectiveness was later called into question, and its curriculum overhauled, but the legend remains: One toke, and before long you're living a less-accented version of Trainspotting."    READ MORE

Monday, April 20, 2015

3 Reasons You Can’t Win with a Narcissist | World of Psychology

About Sarah Newman, MA

Sarah Rae Newman is an Associate Editor at Psych Central and a mental health and science blogger. She has an MA in psychology from the New School for Social Research and an MFA in writing from CCNY. She is the author of the book The Fog of Paranoia: A Sister's Journey through Her Brother's Schizophrenia.


Sunday, April 19, 2015

Stephen King lets Ted Cruz and Marco Rubio have it -

In a brilliant tweet, the horror master perfectly sums up the state of the 2016 presidential race..



The Worst of Our Corrupt Congress Was on Display This Past Week In Washington | Alternet

One day, historians might discover that what unfolded this past week in Washington was a surreal snapshot of the slow-but-steady death of American democracy.  CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

5 Right-Wing Lunacies This Week: Bill O'Reilly Hits Peak Paranoia | Alternet


Saturday, April 18, 2015

Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: Do They Really Have No Shame?

"Most folks know the feeling of shame so well, they can hardly understand that character-impaired people may have different underlying motives for their behavior. Erroneous notions about human nature may make sense in the context of ‘neurotic’ personalities, but when trying to understand character-impairment they leave us vulnerable to abuse and manipulation...."  CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

Beware the Covert-Aggressive Personality ~ George Simon, PhD

"The covert-aggressive personality employs a potent one-two punch: the covert-aggressive conceals aggressive intent to ensure you never really see what’s coming; and he or she exploits your normal sensitivities, conscientiousness and other vulnerabilities to manipulate you into succumbing. Covert-Aggressive Personalities are the archetypal wolves in sheep’s clothing that I introduced in my first book, In Sheep’s Clothing ..."     CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

Stockholm Syndrome: The Psychological Mystery of Loving an Abuser ~ bfrom Counselling Resource Mental Health Library

Sadly, most people do not really understand the broad dimensions of abuse, especially emotional abuse. Terms like "gaslighting", "sadism", and "Stockholm Syndrome" seem to have no relevance whatsoever in their relationship.  If a friend or counselor might ask them about the practices inherent to each of these, they would likely immediately deny all of them as being part of their relationship. Add to that an initial irritation with the counselor on the part of the abused.  

However, after they have experienced this grueling and onerous Herculean journey with their significant other, they are shocked to discover that their "apparently normal, but bumpy relationship"  is indeed the nightmare they thought they were experiencing all along.

"If you’re in a controlling and abusive relationship, you may recognize several of the characteristics described in this article by Consulting Clinical Psychologist Dr Joseph M. Carver, PhD. Beginning with a description of how bonds form between victim and abuser, the article continues with observations about cognitive dissonance and offers suggestions for friends and family of victims...."        CLICK HERE TO READ  THIS ARTICLE!

Friday, April 17, 2015

Societal Stockholm Syndrome ~ Essays by Kathleen Trigiani

....."thus the label, Stockholm Syndrome, was born. It has happened to concentration camp prisoners, cult members, civilians in Chinese Communist prisons, pimp-procured prostitutes, incest victims, physically and/or emotionally abused children, battered women, prisoners of war, victims of hijackings, and of course, hostages"... Virtually anyone can get Stockholm Syndrome it the following conditions are met:
  • Perceived threat to survival and the belief that one's captor is willing to act on that threat
  • The captive's perception of small kindnesses from the captor within a context of terror
  • Isolation from perspectives other than those of the captor
  • Perceived inability to escape.
Stockholm Syndrome is a survival mechanism. The men and women who get it are not lunatics. They are fighting for their lives. They deserve compassion, not ridicule....... CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING

Monday, April 6, 2015

Paul Krugman: Uh-oh, we’re just this screwed -

Austerity failed, yet Britain's conservatives might be rewarded. There's a lesson for us, Paul Krugman argues today


Ted Cruz Isn't an Idiot -- He's Delusional and That's Far More Dangerous | Alternet

"For those who think like Cruz, there is virtually no amount of data, reality checks or facts that can persuade them to give up their false ideas."

The Truth About Facebook: How Communication Became Synonymous With Surveillance | Alternet

Savvy tech critic talks outrage culture, surveillance and the power we give Google & Facebook to moderate our lives
By Michael Schulson / Salon


The Truth About Facebook: How Communication Became Synonymous With Surveillance | Alternet

Savvy tech critic talks outrage culture, surveillance and the power we give Google & Facebook to moderate our lives
By Michael Schulson / Salon


How I Discovered an Amazing Sexual Technique to Satisfy a Woman -- It's Simple! | Alternet

"When I learned about this, it was hallelujah time."

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Memories likely can’t be erased: Research offers new clues to how we remember -

A new study challenges more than a century of neuroscience and could radically change the way we treat PTSD



"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...