MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Indigos: Why We Feel Tired So Often by Celia Fenn

Why we Feel so Tired So Often

by Celia Fenn


Spanish Translation Turkish Translation


Many people who are going through the Indigo to Crystal shift find that intense fatigue and tiredness are two of the predominant symptoms of their shift. They feel exhausted all the time, and just want to sleep. And when they do sleep, they sleep deeply and do not want to get up.
So, what is happening, and why do we feel this way.
Archangel Michael explains that there are three different processes that cause the fatigue. These are:
  • Emotional Body Clearing
  • De-toxification of the Physical and Subtle Bodies
  • Full Multi-Dimensional Consciousness
Each of these aspects can be handled in a different way.

Emotional Body Clearing

At the beginning of the process, we undergo intense emotional body clearing. This involves clearing the psyche and the subconscious of all old patterns of trauma and self-sabotage.The intensity of this process will depend on how much clearing you have already done in your preparation for ascension. I am a healer, and I helped many people to prepare, but never really found the time to fully complete my own process, so when I hit the transition I experienced intense emotional body processing for several months. The stuff just poured out of my subconscious, and I had weird dreams and anxiety attacks as I battled to process the trauma of my inner child.This kind of trauma release is exhausting! Some people don't fully realise what is happening, as they do most of their releasing through dream work at night. But those who suffer anxiety attacks are often doing this processing during the day.
At this point you may need help to work with letting go of old patterns being held by the Inner Child. This is where you need to really do your Inner Child work. Find a good therapist, do a workshop, or find a good book, but let go of the patterns of your wounded child!
And then understand that while you are doing this clearing you will be exhausted. You have spent most of your life repressing these energies. Processing them is hard work. But worth it! when you are finished you will have cleared your psyche of subconscious patterns of self-sabotage, and will be able to function from a space of complete clarity and purity of intention.


De-Toxification of the Physical and Subtle Bodies

This process of deep cleansing is associated with the processes mentioned above. As the emotions are released, so are all the old mental and physical blocks and patterns that are associated with them.These old "toxic" energies are passed through the subtle bodies and cleared through the physical. In addition, any old toxins that the physical body is holding will be cleared at this time.
This process of cleansing and de-toxification puts considerable strain on the organs of elimination, being the kidneys and the liver. Hence many of you may experience having bags under your eyes, evidence of kidney stress, and digestive disturbances such as heartburn and flatulence, evidence of liver stress. In addition you may experience pains in the joints, which is also a characteristic of detoxification, as excess acids are released from their storage in the body.
In addition, these processes of elimination will also make you feel tired, and you may be prone to headaches - all symptoms of detoxification. That is why you will need to drink lots of clear, clean water and try to eat a healthy diet as far as is possible.


Full Multi-Dimensional Consciousness

This is the most exciting part, and happens throughout the process. It is responsible for the "spaciness" that so many of you are feeling.Archangel Michael asked me to explain this to you in terms of the frequencies of the brain waves. As you enter mutli-dimensional awareness, you expand the range of consciousness that your body can handle and the ways in which it is handled.
The brainwave frequencies are as follows:
  • Beta- "normal" waking consciousness
  • Alpha - light meditation
  • Theta - deep meditation
  • Delta - the sleep state or deep hypnosis
  • Gamma - rapid eye movement or the deepest state of sleep/hypnosis where operations can be performed without pain
A third-dimensional being functions in the Beta range, and moves into Alpha in states of creativity and prayer.A fifth-dimensional being functions between Beta/Alpha/Theta in the normal waking state.
Your multi-dimensional awarenss allows your consciousness to shift in this range, while you are awake!!! But this is what causes "fatigue". Your body has always recognised Theta as a state of deep relaxation prior to sleep, and so when your brain waves shift to Theta it sends you a message to say that you are tired and about to go to sleep! And so because we are conditioned to respond to that cue with tiredness and sleep, we feel that we need to go and sleep.
A sixth-dimensional being in training for full 9D Christ Consciousness will be learning to move through Delta to Gamma in the normal waking state!! Now your body definitely thinks it's asleep!! The trick is to learn to move with these states, without panicking or getting "lost" in a dream-like state. Those of us who are doing this work often feel like we are living in a slow-mo dream world, and this is in fact true. We are living in the dream state in our waking consciousness.


This will take a while to master, but once mastered it is the key to immense creativity and the manifestation of "miracles". In this deep state of consciousness we can literally bend and shape time and matter with pure intention. So, understand that your body is learning to adapt to a different range of brain-wave frequencies.


A Note of Caution

Please be careful when in any of the above states that you are aware of the following:
  • Stay Grounded. Work at keeping in your body. Do not take recreational drugs or smoke dope at this time, it will intefere with the natural expansion of consciousness.
  • Distinguish between real tiredness and expanded consciousness. Be kind to yourself. If you feel tired - rest. In fact, you will need significant amounts of rest as you pass through this process. if you try to overdo things you will become hyper and will probably crash into exhaustion anyway.
  • Be careful. If you are driving a car, concentrate and focus. So many people are having accidents because they are unaware of what happens when their brain shifts frequencies. It is just a matter of being grounded and concentrating. Tell your body and your guidance that for the duration of the journey you need to be able to concentrate fully on what you are doing.
  • Relax - it will pass. Soon you will become used to working with these different frequencies. I have begun to have a lot of fun with the dreamy, spacy state, and I am learning to use the creativity that it engenders. I am also learning how to shift frequencies at will. Yes, we are truly becoming Crystal or Christed.


Monday, August 2, 2010

The Indigo Adult & article by Wendy Chapman

Back when I first started practice, I had three teachers /assistant principals call me to ask if I treated Indigo children. Honestly, I was totally clueless about that term...and I had certainly not heard of it in any clinical internship, practicum, etc. 

About a week or so later, I heard two women talking about it in a coffee shop. I am such a "fan" of synchronicity, that I knew it was my time to really explore this.  Now when I do that sort of research, I get as devoted to, and lost in, the process....sort of like a guy working on the engine of a car he loves...or a surgeon after he / she has laid open the flap.  My friends often tease me about that. Part of it is that having computers and internet education, to me, is quite awesome.


So I looked up and studied the term (actually a label, as I was taught by my daughter...but then that's a whole 'nother column!). I read books, contacted a couple of authors...and so on.  (Told you...like a dog with a new bone!!!)

I called some professors at a few of the Ivy Leagues out of the blue, and they were wonderful and eager to share their knowledge, for which I was, and still am,  immensely grateful.  I discovered there were other less "New Agey" terms, in terms of viewing it through a more scientific lense.  I also discovered that a lot of people thought just as my daughter did!

What I think most impressed me was some of the literature written about the phenomenon but, more importantly how the children of today, in yet another stage of consciousness globally, often presented as "Indigo".

So, I learned the ways to parent an Indigo because of their inherent qualities.  I loved reading that but, honestly, I considered that to be excellent parenting that should / could encompass all children.  

It is generally known that an Indigo child must have at least one Indigo parent. However, there are many who do not honor, or deal with, that gift in themselves.  Other times they ignore it in their own children, even belittle it.  Certain teachers actually scorn such children.  I confess that creates a sadness in me.

One of the most interesting families I ever worked with, knew they were such a family....mom, dad, and both children.  Whenever I would work with them, I really felt Creator in the entire process...it was like a sacred hush in my soul, and I continually prayed for guidance in every session. There were other issues with which the family struggled...real life struggles.  But throughout it all I was in awe of their work as a family...and how that "Indigo" manifested in each of them.  

So, I try to post columns which might assist parents to come to know this about their children.  Logically...it always points back to at least one of the parents.

I could write about this forever, but thought I would share the adult Indigo features as generally recognized.  These are not cast in stone, and I have seen different nuances with each point.  At the end of the day, what I have learned is that I can spot these children in a McDonald's...or in a classroom.  Like they say, I can just feel it. You could come to, also.

When you read the list, it is not precise and, like any other group, there are subtle differences with each person.  

Since those first calls, I have discovered that there are some counselors or teachers in the school system who understand this. 





        Are You an Adult Indigo?




~by Wendy H. Chapman, Director, Metagifted.Org


Used with Permission

Yes, You can be an adult Indigo. They did not JUST start coming in now, the numbers have just been increasing more and more until there are so many we finally can not ignore them. Yeay!!! Are you an adult Indigo?
I believe Adult Indigos have these characteristics:

  • Are intelligent (though did not necessarily have top grades).
  • Are very creative and enjoy making things.
  • Always need to know WHY (especially why they are being asked to do something).
  • Had disgust and perhaps loathing for the inanity of much of the required work in school, the repetition.
  • Were rebellious in school, refusing to do homework, rejecting authority of teachers OR seriously wanted to rebel, but didn't DARE, usually due to parental pressure.
  • May have experienced early existential depression and feelings of helplessness. These may have ranged from sadness to utter despair. Suicidal feelings while still in high school or younger are not uncommon in the Indigo Adult.
  • Have difficulty in service-oriented jobs - resistance to authority and caste system of employment.
  • Prefer cooperative efforts or leadership position or solo if expertise is valued.
  • Have deep empathy for others, yet an intolerance of stupidity.
  • Extremely emotionally sensitive including crying at the drop of a hat (no shielding) - to no expression of emotion (full shielding).
  • May have trouble with RAGE.
  • Have trouble with most systems (either emotionally, mentally, or physically)- political, educational, medical, law.
  • Alienation from politics - feeling your voice won't count and that the outcome really doesn't matter anyway.
  • Frustration with or rejection of the traditional American dream - 9-5 career, marriage, 2.5 children, house with white picket fence, etc.
  • Anger at rights being taken away, fear and/or fury at "Big Brother watching you."
  • They feel a need like a burning desire to do something to change and improve the world. May be stymied what to do.
  • Have psychic or spiritual interest fairly young - in or before teen years.
  • Had few if any Indigo role models.
  • Have strong intuition.
  • Random behavior pattern or mind style - (symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder), may have trouble focusing on a task unless of OWN choosing, may jump around in conversations.
  • Have had psychic experiences, such as premonitions, seeing angels or ghosts, hearing voices.
  • Sexually expressive and inventive OR may reject sexuality in boredom. May explore alternate types of sexuality.
  • Seek meaning to their life and understanding about the world May seek this through religion, spiritual groups and books, self-help groups or books, or individually.
  • If they find balance they may become very strong, healthy, happy lightworkers.
These are my opinion based on the discussions with other Indigo adults and my extrapolation from child indicators projected back a generation. I am open to other ideas for indicators as well as disagreements with these. 

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Virgin Galactic Full Introduction film Nov 09 Version 2.mov

How utterly amazing! (Bee and Bran...you may end up going on vacation in one of these!)

Sunday, July 11, 2010

URGENT!! MSNBC REPORTING THAT COREXIT IS KILLING CLEAN UP WORKERS!!

While I am not at all surprised by the continuing pernicious acts of BP....I remain....REPULSED!

"Different drug problem...."

I received the enclosed clipping today from a friend.  Having grown up in the "old school" daze(!), I think we have come a long way...but at the same time, have to grin about the general ethic "back then"...about service and integrity, in particular.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Spanking is Counterproductive and Dangerous

"Relationship Secrets for Highly Empathic People"

Judith Orloff MD

Judith Orloff MD (Psychiatrist)

Posted: June 30, 2010 08:00 nship Advice , Relationship Tips ,Living News8












Loneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn't always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my psychiatric practice in Los Angeles and in my workshops I've been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call "emotional empaths" come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet remaining single for years. Or else they're in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed. The reason isn't simply that "there aren't enough emotionally available people 'out there,'" nor is their burnout "neurotic." Personally and professionally, I've discovered that something more is going on.
In "Emotional Freedom" I describe emotional empaths as a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner's energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don't have time to decompress in our own space. We're super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with 50 fingers instead of five. Energetically sensitive people unknowingly avoid romantic partnership because deep down they're afraid of getting engulfed. Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live. If this isn't understood, empaths can stay perpetually lonely. We want companionship, but, paradoxically, it doesn't feel safe. One empath patient told me, "It helps explain why at 32 I've only had two serious relationships, each lasting less than a year." Once we empaths learn to set boundaries and negotiate our energetic preferences, intimacy becomes possible.
For emotional empaths to be at ease in a relationship, the traditional paradigm for coupling must be redefined. Most of all, this means asserting your personal space needs -- the physical and time limits you set with someone so you don't feel they're on top of you. Empaths can't fully experience emotional freedom with another until they do this. Your space needs can vary with your situation, upbringing, and culture. My ideal distance to keep in public is at least an arm's length. In doctors' waiting rooms I'll pile my purse and folders on the seats beside me to keep others away.
With friends it's about half that. With a mate it's variable. Sometimes it's rapture being wrapped in his arms; later I may need to be in a room of my own, shut away. One boyfriend who truly grasped the concept got me a "Keep Out" sign for my study door! For me, this was a sign of true love. All of us have an invisible energetic border that sets a comfort level. Identifying and communicating yours will prevent you from being bled dry by others. Then intimacy can flourish, even if you've felt suffocated before. Prospective mates or family members may seem like emotional vampires when you don't know how to broach the issue of personal space. You may need to educate others -- make clear that this isn't about not loving them -- but get the discussion going. Once you can, you're able to build progressive relationships.
If you're an empath or if the ordinary expectations of coupledom don't jibe with you practice the following tips.
Define your personal space needs
Tip 1. What to say to a potential mate
As you're getting to know someone, share that you're a sensitive person, that you periodically need quiet time. The right partner will be understanding; the wrong person will put you down for being "overly sensitive," and won't respect your need.
Tip 2. Clarify your preferred sleep style
Traditionally, partners sleep in the same bed. However, some empaths never get used to this, no matter how caring a mate. Nothing personal; they just like their own sleep space. Speak up about your preferences. Feeling trapped in bed with someone, not getting a good night's rest, is torture. Energy fields blend during sleep, which can overstimulate empaths. So, discuss options with your mate. Separate beds. Separate rooms. Sleeping together a few nights a week. Because non-empaths may feel lonely sleeping alone, make compromises when possible.
Tip 3. Negotiate your square footage needs
You may be thrilled about your beloved until you live together. Experiment with creative living conditions so your home isn't a prison. Breathing room is mandatory. Ask yourself, "What space arrangements are optimal?" Having an area to retreat to, even if it's a closet? A room divider? Separate bathrooms? Separate houses? I prefer having my own bedroom/office to retreat to. I also can see the beauty of separate wings or adjacent houses if affordable. Here's why: conversations, scents, coughing, movement can feel intrusive. Even if my partner's vibes are sublime, sometimes I'd rather not sense them even if they're only hovering near me. I'm not just being finicky; it's about maintaining well-being if I live with someone.
Tip 4. Travel wisely
Traveling with someone, you may want to have separate space too. Whether my companion is romantic or not, I'll always have adjoining rooms with my own bathroom. If sharing a room is the only option, hanging a sheet as a room divider will help. "Out of sight" may make the heart grow fonder.
Tip 5. Take regular mini-breaks
Empaths require private downtime to regroup. Even a brief escape prevents emotional overload. Retreat for five minutes into the bathroom with the door shut. Take a stroll around the block. Read in a separate room. One patient told her boyfriend, "I need to disappear into a quiet room for ten minutes at a party, even if I'm having fun," a form of self-care that he supports.
In my medical practice, I've seen this creative approach to relationships save marriages and make ongoing intimacies feel safe, even for emotional empaths (of all ages) who've been lonely and haven't had a long-term partner before. Once you're able to articulate your needs, emotional freedom in your relationships is possible.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Cultivating Heart Intelligence

by John Travis, M.D.
The Wellspring



Today we know that the physical heart is also the seat of many important human qualities. Our perceptions, mental and emotional attitudes, immune system, reaction times, and decision-making abilities are all directly related to the health of our heart. Yet while we are taught reading, writing and math, we are rarely taught how to love. Children are taught to use their head in school, to direct it in analytical thought, but not to calm it down or balance it with heart intelligence. As a result, they perceive life and communicate from an insecure head perception, as does the society around them. We usually love only as the mood arises, or if we are having an especially good day.
Cultivating heart intelligence begins with recognizing that at any point in time we have the opportunity to recognize that there are two different perspectives to a situation, and that our perceptions, thoughts, choices, and actions condition the events and outcomes of our lives. The heart choice offers an opportunity for solutions, the head choice imprisons us in hurt or anger. 
Hopelessness or fear of the future comes from not being able to perceive life through the heart. Continually failing to find solutions, success, or happiness, people become depressed. When, instead, people consistently respond to life from the heart, they feel secure, listen to the hearts of others and themselves, and feel there is always a way to understand and find answers to problems.
Children can become proficient in recognizingthe difference between head or heart perceptions, feelings, and actions in using their heart intelligence. They gain self-empowerment by understanding that while feelings are real, they have a choice of how to deal with their feelings and their perceptions. Children learn and grow best in a secure atmosphere where they are encouraged to perceive life as a series of challenges that build confidence, rather than as a progression of unsolvable problems that destroy self-worth. In today's world, parents can readily fall into "overcare"--nagging, constantly worrying about a child, while thinking we are actually caring for them. This serves only to fuel a child's frustration, anxiety, and anguish. Balanced care arises from a feeling of security and creates more security.
Research has shown that by acquiring the knowledge to consciously love, parents access a superior intuitional frequency within their own innate intelligence that quickens the intuitive connection with their child. This intuitional field of knowingness between parent and child, which is automatically established when a parent sincerely loves a child, has proven to be the crucial configuration for effectively communicating with a child of any age. Yet many parents, overwhelmed and struggling to cope with as much stress as they can, assume they are functioning from a loving place while in reality they are subtly or overtly judging their children, spouses, or themselves.
To love effectively, we must consciously practice addressing life with love.... Experiencing and expressing love are the peak moments of fulfillment in life.... —Doc Childre
Through sincere communication, deep listening, and speaking our truth, a heart intelligent parent enters a child's world to understand without judgment. Time so spent saves time, energy, and stress in the long run.
Love changes the atmospheric condition of a child's environment. —Doc Childre
Freeze-Frame, a stress-reduction technique developed at the Institute of Heartmath, is an example of a technique that can be used by both parents and children to acquire heart intelligence. Users of the Freeze-Frame method learn how to observe, shift perspectives, and unearth thoughts that help them understand our feelings. By learning to discriminate heart intelligence from emotional impulses, and to generate and receive intuitive thoughts we are able recognize that we do have choices, and can direct our own lives more intelligently.
The Freeze-Frame technique is remarkably simple and takes only a minute or two. With it, you stop your movie of life for a moment, and go to the heart for direction. By practicing Freeze-Frame, our heart intelligence releases judgmental reaction patterns and provides the deeper perception and understanding that can transform any parent/child interaction. Challenges approached in this manner actually build creative resistance, resiliency, and the understanding and confidence to master new challenges.

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"