MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Showing posts with label emotional intelligence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotional intelligence. Show all posts

Sunday, November 9, 2014

The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence | Psychology Today

This is an excellent article!  Reposted by William Chen, PhD in Ontario Canada on Twitter.  Interesting and multi-facet psychotherapist!

The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence | Psychology Today

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Cultivating Heart Intelligence

by John Travis, M.D.
The Wellspring



Today we know that the physical heart is also the seat of many important human qualities. Our perceptions, mental and emotional attitudes, immune system, reaction times, and decision-making abilities are all directly related to the health of our heart. Yet while we are taught reading, writing and math, we are rarely taught how to love. Children are taught to use their head in school, to direct it in analytical thought, but not to calm it down or balance it with heart intelligence. As a result, they perceive life and communicate from an insecure head perception, as does the society around them. We usually love only as the mood arises, or if we are having an especially good day.
Cultivating heart intelligence begins with recognizing that at any point in time we have the opportunity to recognize that there are two different perspectives to a situation, and that our perceptions, thoughts, choices, and actions condition the events and outcomes of our lives. The heart choice offers an opportunity for solutions, the head choice imprisons us in hurt or anger. 
Hopelessness or fear of the future comes from not being able to perceive life through the heart. Continually failing to find solutions, success, or happiness, people become depressed. When, instead, people consistently respond to life from the heart, they feel secure, listen to the hearts of others and themselves, and feel there is always a way to understand and find answers to problems.
Children can become proficient in recognizingthe difference between head or heart perceptions, feelings, and actions in using their heart intelligence. They gain self-empowerment by understanding that while feelings are real, they have a choice of how to deal with their feelings and their perceptions. Children learn and grow best in a secure atmosphere where they are encouraged to perceive life as a series of challenges that build confidence, rather than as a progression of unsolvable problems that destroy self-worth. In today's world, parents can readily fall into "overcare"--nagging, constantly worrying about a child, while thinking we are actually caring for them. This serves only to fuel a child's frustration, anxiety, and anguish. Balanced care arises from a feeling of security and creates more security.
Research has shown that by acquiring the knowledge to consciously love, parents access a superior intuitional frequency within their own innate intelligence that quickens the intuitive connection with their child. This intuitional field of knowingness between parent and child, which is automatically established when a parent sincerely loves a child, has proven to be the crucial configuration for effectively communicating with a child of any age. Yet many parents, overwhelmed and struggling to cope with as much stress as they can, assume they are functioning from a loving place while in reality they are subtly or overtly judging their children, spouses, or themselves.
To love effectively, we must consciously practice addressing life with love.... Experiencing and expressing love are the peak moments of fulfillment in life.... —Doc Childre
Through sincere communication, deep listening, and speaking our truth, a heart intelligent parent enters a child's world to understand without judgment. Time so spent saves time, energy, and stress in the long run.
Love changes the atmospheric condition of a child's environment. —Doc Childre
Freeze-Frame, a stress-reduction technique developed at the Institute of Heartmath, is an example of a technique that can be used by both parents and children to acquire heart intelligence. Users of the Freeze-Frame method learn how to observe, shift perspectives, and unearth thoughts that help them understand our feelings. By learning to discriminate heart intelligence from emotional impulses, and to generate and receive intuitive thoughts we are able recognize that we do have choices, and can direct our own lives more intelligently.
The Freeze-Frame technique is remarkably simple and takes only a minute or two. With it, you stop your movie of life for a moment, and go to the heart for direction. By practicing Freeze-Frame, our heart intelligence releases judgmental reaction patterns and provides the deeper perception and understanding that can transform any parent/child interaction. Challenges approached in this manner actually build creative resistance, resiliency, and the understanding and confidence to master new challenges.

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"