MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Saturday, August 30, 2014

Married to a Narcissistic Husband? Proceed with Caution! | The Narcissistic Life

About Alexander Burgemeester
Alex Graduated in Neuro-Psychology at the University of Amsterdam. He worked a few years in a nursing home where he specialized himself in neurodegenerative disorders (alzheimer, parkinson), Personality Disorders and Emotional disorders (depression). Now he specializes in sharing his knowledge on public websites.    


Certainly all relationships have challenges. But being married to a narcissistic husband can be a very complicated and thorny journey. A narcissistic husband can be vain, insensitive to your needs, violent, and exceptionally critical of you. Living with a person like that can be destructive and demoralizing. It can leave you feeling confused and hurt by their seemingly incomprehensible actions. Theoretically, it is possible to negotiate a relationship with a narcissistic individual; but keep in mind that most narcissists are unlikely to recognize or take responsibility for needing to adjust the current unhealthy relationship.....  CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

Wednesday, August 27, 2014


Indigo Children - CNN - Andersen Cooper

  
Whether they are called the "Disciple 

Generation" by Christians, or "Indigo Kids" by

 New Age followers, or Millenials by 

demographers children born after 1978 are 

said to be different. They are empathetic, 

curious, strong-willed, independent, and often 

perceived by friends and family as being weird.

 They possess a clear sense of self-definition 

and purpose and also exhibit a strong 

inclination towards spiritual matters from early 

childhood. 

These children have also been described as

 having a strong feeling of entitlement. These

 children have a high intelligence quotient, an

 inherent intuitive ability, and a resistance to

 authority. Indigo children function poorly in

 conventional schools due to their rejection of

 authority, being conceptually smarter than their

 teachers. They are non-responsive to

 authoritarian, guilt/fear/manipulation based

 discipline. Many of these children labeled or

 diagnosed as having ADHD. They are avoiding

 or leaving the modern Church model in droves

 as they find deep spirituality in the gifts God 

has given them.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

The Gratitude Challenge: Does Expressing Thanks Every Day Make You Happier? | Lindsay Holmes


The Gratitude Challenge: Does Expressing Thanks Every Day Make You Happier?

Posted: Updated: 

GRATEFUL
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"In an interview with author Gretchen Rubin, author and University of Houston research professor Brené Brown said, "I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness -- it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude." Brown's philosophy wasn't wrong, at least not according to research. Studies show that the more you express thanks, the happier you are....."     CLICK HERE TO READ MORE!

Thursday, August 21, 2014

"How to Raise Grateful Children"

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ONE PASTE FROM THIS ARTICLE:    "...........Teach actions. Saying thank you is fine. It is. But in these busy, crazy times of social networking and little connection to real people, it’s important to teach children to SHOW UP and give thanks. Have them write out their thank yous daily in a journal. Call instead of emailing. Give cookies to the school janitor.
Give thanks. For all children, writing or drawing a picture of the things they are thankful for is a great way to get them thinking about being thankful. For the ones not quite ready for that kind of daily devotion, a simple bedtime ritual works wonders. Ask your child what she is grateful for today? Share your own idea or two with her as well.
Make cards. Every now and then, I buy blank cards and let the girls go crazy with decorating them anyway they want. We send those cards to the people in our life that need a lift. Thank you cards are a lost art that some of us really wish we could get people to spend more time on. Make a card. Give thanks daily. Spread joy weekly..........."

Monday, August 18, 2014

EXCELLENT ARTICLE! Back to Basics: Parenting, the Divine Blueprint and the Boundaries of Free-Will | The Power of Social Consciousness

"As parents, we certainly want what’s best for 

our children. But how parents relate to their 

children, in terms of expectations, is typically a 

function of what parents deem as “best”. 

Except in cases of abuse and neglect, most 

parents mean well when they prescribe or 

dictate certain goals, standards or aspirations 

for their children. But many parents may be 

shocked to learn that what they consider to be 

dedicated and responsible parenting, often 

constitutes a trespass across the boundaries o

free will...... READ FULL ARTICLE..CLICK HERE


Monday, August 11, 2014

The Best and Worst Places in America to Educate Your Child | Alternet

"Among the many topics parents tend to spend obscene amounts of time worrying about (are they safe? are they warm? are they well fed?), where to send one’s children to school can become a bona fide obsession. And with good reason: even as the debate continues about the value of a college degree, at the moment, level of educational attainment still carries significant weight in predicting future earnings. Even leaving “earnings potential” aside, most of us who care for children want to know that where we’re sending them each day is a place that’s safe and nurturing -- not mention teaching them a thing or two along the way."    CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE

Monday, August 4, 2014

Spornosexuality, Body Image and Boys | Psychology Today

"We’ve spent all kinds of energy worrying about girls and body image.  Trends like ‘spornosexuals’ in the media (athletes and other celebrities with their shirts off showing off their abs) remind us ....."CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Proof near-death experiences ARE real? New book reveals dramatic evidence | Mail Online

"As a nurse, I’m always cheered when I see a patient who appears to be making a good recovery. That certainly seemed the case with 60-year-old Tom Kennard, who’d been suffering from sepsis after surgery for cancer.
After a couple weeks in the intensive care ward, he was well enough to be moved from his hospital bed to a chair. Moments later, however, he suddenly slumped into unconsciousness.
There was no doubt at all that he was out cold. He responded neither to my urgent questions nor to the painful pressure of my Biro on his fingernails. 
Worse still, his skin became clammy......."
CLICK HERE TO READ MORE....

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Indigo or Crystal Children: How to Empower Yours ~ Gaiam TV

April 30, 2014
As we have discussed, Crystal and Indigo Children are very sensitive to the energy balances in their environments. This can cause very ranged reactions in their emotions, and be quite debilitating in quality of life. Experiencing these peaks and valleys can be very trying, whether you are a parent or if you yourself are one of these gifted Children. It is detrimental to their physical, emotional, and spiritual health to be yo-yoing back and forth, so empowering your Crystal or Indigo kids is extremely important for their futures surviving in the world.
Here are a few ideas that you can try that give the essentials of empowerment for your Children:
1. Breathing: the breath moves energy throughout the body. When Crystal or Indigo Children are frustrated, scared, hyper, or generally upset, you can ask them to take a moment. Have them stop what they are doing and breathe deeply by inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth. You can tell them to really exert the out blow, like they are blowing their anger. Make it a fun game, and even do it with them.
2. Smudging: cleansing your house to help clear the distracting vibrations is a great way to create a soothing home base environment. When should you do it? Immediately after a tantrum, fight, or dissonance of any kind, after you have a lot of people over, and on a regular basis. Make it part of your house cleaning routine, sometimes even daily. You will notice a distinct difference very quickly.
3. Staying Grounded: another very important step, there are many methods of how to get this accomplished. If you are looking for something quick and easy, intention and visualizing are your best bets. They can be done in a fast second at anytime, anyplace, without anyone even noticing. One method some practitioners advise is to ask Gaia (or Mother Earth) for her permission for your grounding cord to enter the core of her being. Then, visualize a clear cord or clear rope coming from your root chakra (tail bone area) and entering Gaia. It grows in length, and continues to grow until it has been fully anchored into the core of Gaia. This grounding cord releases negative energy and also brings in positive energy. Set your intention to send all the negative energy down this cord, physically exhale, releasing it into Gaia. After the negative energy has all been released, with intention, bring up the positive life-giving earth energy with a physical inhale. Close by thanking Gaia. Have your kids make a monkey chain cord. It's the intention that works!
4. Shielding: Indigos and Crystals are extremely sensitive. Their highly tuned energy fields pick up negative emotions and environmental energy from their surroundings like a sponge, which cause severe mood swings. The Children unknowingly will pick up all this energy and take it on as their own. Instead of leaving them vulnerable, teach them to create and surround themselves with the "bubble of white light" protection every morning. This repels the negative energy around them but allows the positive energy to enter. Have them visualize this bubble like a soap bubble with them inside of it.
5. Exercise: it is important for exercise to remain a part of all of our lives in order to keep up a healthy lifestyle, but this also helps the Indigo or Crystal Children to burn off excess energy that they pick up. Their nervous systems are wired differently than others. Excellent exercise outlets to release what they are holding in their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual bodies are yoga, tai-chi, dancing, martial arts, gymnastics, or anything they love that gets them moving!
6. Inside Nature: bring nature indoors. Make sure to stock your home with lots of beautiful plants, rocks, crystals, waterfalls, aquariums, and so on. Crystal Children in particular have a strong connection to nature, and this will help them feel at ease.
7. Quiet Room: keep a room in your house that is a quiet space with no electrical equipment at all, as Crystals and Indigos are sensitive to machine energy, as well. This is a room for them to just be who they are. Let them do whatever they love to do in their quiet time, whether it’s artwork, reading, puzzles, Legos, and so on.
8. Sea Salt Baths: give your kids nightly baths in sea salt. Make sure they drink extra (non-salted) water, as this naturally pulls toxins from the physical body and also clears negative energies from the energetic body.
9. Clean Environments: do not keep artificial scents in your home. Use only the highest quality oils and unscented beeswax candles. Maintain a relaxed mood with dolphin, orca, or angelic relaxing music, played on low in the background when you’re at home. Of course, avoid screaming chaotic music, as this is only going to disturb their energy. Also keep all electrical stuff out of their bedrooms to protect your children from the very dangerous electromagnetic waves these devices send out. This will help them sleep deeply and peacefully.
10. Healing: Reiki Energy Healing, Sound Healing, and other alternative healing methods are recommended for healing, balancing, rejuvenating and empowering not just Crystals or Indigos, but all of us! Take advantage of such services for you and your Children.
- See more at: http://www.gaiamtv.com/blog/basics-empowering-your-indigo-or-crystal-children?cid=soc:pinterest:blog#sthash.TnIkxoB7.dpuf

Joseph Campbell - Mythos III ★ Love as the Guide - Part 1 of 5

VIDEO: "Emotional Intelligence: From Theory to Everyday Practice" ~ Marc Brackett, Director Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence & Self Awareness - YouTube

The New Children: Indigo Children, Crystal Children



Teachers and parents need to open their minds, educate themselves, and update their skills to serve these new children. Many believe these children are a new step in evolution; others believe they have been around a long time. I think both are true, as some characteristics are slightly different.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

"Mice Inherit the Fears of Their Fathers" by Virginia Hughes

"There’s no question that trauma gets handed down from one generation to the next.
In one highly publicized example, researchers in New York studied several dozen women who were pregnant on September 11, 2001, and had been in the vicinity of the terrorist attacks. Some of these women developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and this group shows lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol in their saliva than do those who did not develop PTSD. But here’s the rub: At 9 months old, the babies of the women with PTSD have significantly lower cortisol levels than babies of healthy mothers.
In earlier work, the same researchers had reported low cortisol levels........"  CLICK HERE TO READ MORE...

Friday, July 25, 2014

Is there an afterlife? The science of biocentrism can prove there is, claims Professor Robert Lanza - Science - News - The Independent

"While the religious would argue that life on earth is a mere warm up for an eternity spent in heaven or hell, and many scientists would dismiss the concept for lack of proof – one expert claims he has definitive evidence to confirm once and for all that there is indeed life after death.
The answer, Professor Robert Lanza says, lies in quantum physics – specifically the theory of biocentrism. The scientist, from Wake Forest University School of Medicine in North Carolina......"CLICK HERE TO READ MORE:

Thursday, July 24, 2014

"9 Signs You’re An Old Soul" ~ (yet unknown source)

I was hesitant to post this, because I received it in an email, but apparently deleted the email without recording the source as I always do.  Then, I received another email which brought to me this.  The latter had a few differences, but this time it came with no source at all.  While this may be a bit simplistic, I like the piece for exactly that reason.

If anyone reads this and claims authorship, please email me, and I will immediately record it in this post, hence giving proper credit.

9 Signs You’re An Old Soul


 "How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?” ~ Satchel Paige

There is a special kind of person in our world who finds himself alone and isolated, almost since birth. His solitary existence isn’t from a preference or an antisocial temperament – he is simply old.  Old in heart, old in mind and old in soul, this person is an old soul who finds his outlook on life vastly different and more matured than those around him.  As a result, the old soul lives his life internally, walking his own solitary path while the rest around him flock to follow another.  Perhaps you’ve experienced this in your own life, or have witnessed it in another person?  If so, this article is dedicated to you, in hopes that you will come to define yourself, or understand another better.

The “Old Soul” Robert Frost, Eckhart Tolle and even Nick Jonas have been called that. Perhaps even you have?  I did.  Like many of them, this self discovery was made upon meeting Sol, who told me about his childhood as a precocious, intelligent boy who would befriend the teachers instead of the students, just because the students still seemed a bit too different from him.  As he related his inability to find deep interest in and insightful connection to the people his age, I discovered that I felt the same, and still do.

If you have not yet discovered whether you’re an old soul, read some of the revealing signs below.

9 Signs You’re An Old Soul

1#   You tend to be a solitary loner. Because old souls are often disinterested in the pursuits and interests of the people in their age groups, they find it dissatisfying to make friends with people they find it hard to relate to. For children, often the "social" role is learned and accepted to "pass". This is one of the major problems Old Souls experience.  The result is … old souls tend to find themselves alone a lot of the time. People just don’t cut it for them, particularly those who may appear shallow, or indifferent to the human condition.

2#   You love knowledge, wisdom and truth. Yep … this seems a little grandiose and overly noble, but the old soul finds himself naturally gravitating towards the intellectual side of life.  Old souls inherently understand that knowledge is power, wisdom is happiness and truth is freedom, so why not seek after those things?  These pursuits are more meaningful to them than reading up on the latest gossip about Snooki’s latest boyfriend, or the latest football scores.

3#   You’re spiritually inclined. More emotional old souls tend to have sensitive and spiritual natures.  Overcoming the confines of the ego, seeking enlightenment and fostering love and peace are the main pursuits of these young-in-body Mother Teresa’s. To them it seems the wisest, most fulfilling use of time. When young, they may still utilize the role to "pass", and use that superficially created role for a modicum of social safety.

4#   You understand the transience of life. Old souls are frequently plagued with reminders of not only their own mortality, but that of everything and everyone around them.  This makes the old soul wary and at times withdrawn, but wisely dictates the way they live their lives. Even though they do not use the "lingo", they are increasingly aware of non-duality.

5#   You’re thoughtful and introspective. Old souls tend to think a lot …about everything. Their ability to reflect and learn from their actions and those of others is their greatest teacher in life.  One reason why old souls feel so old at heart is because they have learned so many lessons through their own thought processes, and possess so much insight into life situations from their ability to quietly and carefully observe what if going on around them.

6#   You see the bigger picture. Rarely do old souls get lost in the superficial details of getting job promotions for status' sake, boob jobs and bigger TV’s.  Old souls have the tendency to look at life from a birds eye view, seeing what is the most wise and meaningful way to approach life. When confronted with issues, old souls tend to see them as temporary and passing pains that merely serve to increase the amount of joy felt in the future. Consequently, old souls tend to have placid, stable natures as a result of their approach to life.  Unless, that is, there sense of fairness is trampled or exploited. (Then you might often see a fiery reaction, since they are strong advocates of justice.)

7#   You aren’t materialistic. Wealth, status, fame, and the latest version of iPhone … they just bore old souls.  While they may have fun with those sorts of things temporarily, ultimately, the old soul doesn’t see the purpose of pursuing things that can be easily taken away from them.  Additionally, old souls have little time and interest for the short-lived things in life, as they bring little meaning or long lasting fulfillment for them.

8#   You were a strange, occasionally socially unskilled kid, due to his/her "boredom" with the "we've always done it this way" types of responses.  This is not always the case, but many old souls exhibit odd signs of maturity at young ages. Often, these children are labelled as being “precocious”, “introverted”, or “rebellious“, failing to fit entirely into the mainstream behaviors.  Usually, these children are extremely inquisitive and intelligent, seeing the purposelessness of many things their teachers, parents and peers say and do, and either passively or aggressively resisting them.  If you can talk to your child like he/she’s an adult – you’ve probably got an old soul on your hands.  Attempts to “crush” these spiritual people will ultimately only be temporary, and result in conflict.

9#   You just “feel” old in heart. Before putting a name to what they feel, he/she might experience frequent sensations of simply being an “old person” inside….wise, seasoned, discerning.  The feelings that accompany being an old soul are usually: a feeling of world wariness, mental tiredness, watchful patience, and detached calmness. Unfortunately, this can often be perceived as being aloof and cold, which is only one of many Old Soul Myths.

Just as some old people describe themselves as being “young at heart”, sotoo can young people be “old at heart”.

"U.S. News Best Diets: How We Rated 32 Eating Plans" - US News~ Paleo the worst!

Following my posting of other articles about Paleo, I was delighted when the "guru" of research and surveys about almost any subject at all (U.S.News and World Report), substantiated the lack of effectiveness and healthiness of the Paleo Diet. In almost ALL categories, it was the LEAST beneficial.  In a couple of categories it was the second from the bottom of all the plans.  


What the Paleo is NOT:  good overall diet, heart-healthy, good for diabetics, and certainly not good for weight loss.


CLICK HERE FOR RESEARCH! U.S. News Best Diets: How We Rated 32 Eating Plans - US News





From U.S. News:  "Diets come and go, teasing and tempting us with dreams of that elusive hot body. Eat what you want! Pounds melt away overnight! The reality, as frustrated dieters know well, is that dieting is hard, and frankly, most diets don't work. Some can even threaten your health. And digging out the truth about dieting, let alone deciphering whether particular plans live up to the hype, is laborious enough to burn off a pound or two by itself.
Best Diets 2014 cuts through the clutter of claims. Now in its fourth year, Best Diets delivers the facts about 38 eating plans and ranks 32 of them on a range of levels, from their heart healthiness to their likelihood to help you lose weight."

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"