MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

"Italian Men Are the Best Lovers" by Fiona Macrae


Dedication: John J. C., Jr./ A.J.T.  /  Il Divo, The Tenors, Luciano Pavarotti and Italian opera, a grin, intense "in any situation", espresso, a man’s love of flowers, teacher of men, mutual intuition, deep sensual nature/ very best ever! Smolder.... Salutare!


Bad news, men: 

Italian men are the best lovers - 
and English men are bottom of the table


64 per cent of Italian men and women are happy with their love lives
But only 54 per cent of British people are satisfied with their sex           lives

Scottish people have the lowest expectations - one in 10 expect sex to last less than two minutes, a third of Italians think over 10 minutes is the norm.

English men might want to look away now.
Italians came out on top in a ‘sex of the nations survey’.
Some 64 per cent of the Italian men and women polled said they were satisfied with their love life.

A poll found 64 per cent of Italians are satisfied with their love lives compared to 54 per cent of English people. The survey was conducted as part of a drive, supported by rugby players Sean Maitland of Scotland (left) and Danny Care of England (right), to encourage people to seek help for their sexual health problems
England only managed a below average 54 per cent – the lowest of the six nations surveyed.
However, Scots shouldn’t be too smug
The survey of more than 6,000 people from Italy, France, England, Scotland, Wales and Ireland found Scots to have the lowest expectations.
Almost one in ten said they expect sex to last less than two minutes.
The poll also revealed Scottish people have the lowest sexual expectations. Dan Biggar of Wales (pictured) has also been involved in the campaign

In contrast over a third of Italians think more than ten minutes to be the norm.


The research, commissioned to help highlight the prevalence of premature ejaculation, the most common male sexual health problem, also found that more than one fifth of people would like sex to last longer.

Martin Tod, chief executive of the Men’s Health Forum, said: ‘Premature ejaculation can lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment.
‘It can have a real negative impact on quality of life for men and their partners.
‘It is more common than people think and men should not feel embarrassed to do something about it.
‘Help is available from your GP.  There’s no need to suffer in silence.’ 
The research was done for drug company Menarini, which has teamed up with international rugby players, Danny Care, Sean Maitland and Dan Biggar, to encourage people to seek help for sexual problems.




Sunday, October 7, 2018

"There Will Be Hell to Pay"/Calls Kavanaugh Confirmation 'An American Tragedy"

‘There Will Be Hell to Pay’: Former Dean of Yale Law School Calls Kavanaugh Confirmation ‘An American Tragedy’

Robert Post described Kavanaugh as a “casual acquaintance."
Robert Post and Brett Kavanaugh
In an op-ed published Saturday by Politico, former Dean of Yale Law School Robert Post called Brett Kavanaugh’s appointment to the U.S. Supreme Court “an American tragedy” writing that the nation’s newest Supreme Court justice is the “black-robed embodiment of raw partisan power inconsistent with any ideal of an impartial judiciary.”
Post described Kavanaugh as a “casual acquaintance,” noting he watched the judge’s testimony before the Senate Judiciary committee last month with “something approaching unbelief.”
“With calculation and skill, Kavanaugh stoked the fires of partisan rage and male entitlement,” Post wrote. “He had apparently concluded that the only way he could rally Republican support was by painting himself as the victim of a political hit job. He therefore offered a witches’ brew of vicious unfounded charges, alleging that Democratic members of the Senate Judicial Committee were pursuing a vendetta on behalf of the Clintons.”
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“If we expect judges to reach conclusions based solely on reliable evidence, Kavanaugh’s savage and bitter attack demonstrated exactly the opposite sensibility,” Post wrote, adding he was “shell-shocked” by Kavanaugh’s performance.
Kavanaugh, Post said, chose “ambition over professionalism” and will “remain a symbol of partisan anger, a haunting reminder that behind the smiling face of judicial benevolence lies the force of an urgent will to power.”
“Each and every Republican who votes for Kavanaugh, therefore, effectively announces that they care more about controlling the Supreme Court than they do about the legitimacy of the court itself,” Post wrote. “There will be hell to pay.”
Post warned Kavanaugh’s “very presence” on the Supreme Court “will undermine the court’s claim to legitimacy; it will damage the nation’s commitment to the rule of law.”
“It will be an American tragedy,” he said.

"Just a beginning fragment" TBC


Those of you who know be know that I love kids. Seriously!
I am aware of many adults who are somewhat apathetic, even when it is their own child. I no longer waste time wondering why.
When I was young, I always volunteered to help in kid groups which did arts, music, cooking, etc. I LOVED those times!   

That went on for years, and when I went to school to be a psychotherapist, the decision to specialize in that group of little humans was so very easy.  In the meanwhile, I had "on and off" raised three stepchildren, and then we had a beautiful little girl of our own. Being a mid-life scholar was amazing, because by then I had a deep sense of the realms I wished to walk in, practice-wise. Add to that what, at the time, was a challenge ..... adolescents.
And so, everything evolved ..... and nothing was so energizing as learning about these folks! (My daughter used to call her three "The Shorties")  
Initially, I thought that process ... well, how hard could it be? Really!  
That original opinion showed how very much I had to learn!
The first thing was that underestimating kids was a huge mistake. Oh, sure, the "books" will provide you with endless "scientific" facts, but the quickest way to put that in perspective was to spend 5-10 minutes talking with a kid about  ... well, basically anything. 
Even more fun is to simply flow with their ideas as they speak. This absolutely shows how quick their minds are.  Their thoughts dance with a tempo and velocity. One could interpret them as childish banter, but kids' banter is much deeper than we initially think.  
I think that kids often get frustrated, because they have some kiddie radar, which  rapidly sizes up intent, compassion, humor, and anger of adults with whom they interact.

(to be continued)

Saturday, October 6, 2018


It's True: Misogyny Is at the Heart of Right-Wing Politics

Republicans really do hate women
Photo Credit: Office of the Vice President
They really do hate women.
It's long been frowned upon to acknowledge this fundamental truth: Misogyny is at the heart of right-wing politics. Pointing out that hatred of women and a desire to keep them under the boot is an animating force of Republican politics is sure to draw pained expressions from many liberal men, certain that the feminists are being hysterical again. Surely feminists don't think it's quite as simple as that, right? Surely we understand that anti-abortion views are about a sincere belief that life begins at conception and anyway, Republicans aren't serious when they say they're going to ban abortion. That's just something they say to rile up the rubes, to trick them into voting for the real agenda, which is about economics and taxes. Certainly you women can't think you are important enough that oppressing you is a major priority for Republicans, right?
We're not hearing that argument much these days, though the price that had to be paid for the wake-up call was steep indeed: The election of a gloating misogynist who brags about his lengthy career sexual assault. Now the Senate, with Friday's cloture vote to move forward with the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh, is one step from seating a piggish frat boy who has been credibly accused of abusive sexual conduct by multiple women to the Supreme Court. Once there, he will almost certainly be the fifth vote to gut abortion rights and to start chipping away at LGBT rights and contraception access.
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In his famous 2004 book, "What's the Matter With Kansas," Thomas Frank laid down the argument that became almost a doctrine in some quarters of the left, which was that gender politics and the culture war and gender politic were just distractions thrown up by Republicans to bait the masses into voting against their economic self-interest. Frank wrote that culture war politics "may count when conservatives appear on the stump," but "once conservatives are in office the only old-fashioned situation they care to revive is an economic regimen of low wages and lax regulations."
"Abortion is never halted. Affirmative action is never abolished," he intoned, setting up a decade-plus of liberal men, right through the 2016 election, insinuating that feminist priorities like electing more women to office were a distraction from real issues. That pressure campaign was largely successful, leaving many women too ashamed to be frumpy feminists who were mysteriously undermining the progressive cause to get excited about the possibility of electing a feminist like Hillary Clinton.
Seems like feminists aren't being shamed into silence so easily these days. The videos populating social media from the protests at the Hart Senate Building are a cacophony of mostly female voices raised high, screaming disapproval of the Kavanaugh nomination and no longer intimidated by accusations that they are shrill, hysterical or, heaven help us, not sexy. And Republican reactions strongly suggest their misogyny is more than an act put on to bamboozle the yokels.
"I want to make it clear to these people who are chasing my members around the hall here or harassing them at the airports or going to their homes, we’re not going to be intimidated by these people," Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell said of the protesters.
“When you grow up, I’ll be glad to [speak to you],” Sen. Orrin Hatch snapped at a group of protesters, equating grown women with children who need a scolding.
“You needed to go to the cops,” Sen. Lindsey Graham told another protester when she confronted him about her own history of rape, implying that he --  with no information about her situation -- understood her options better than she did.
Sen. Ben Sasse dismissed the protests by women against Kavanaugh as "hysteria" three times during the original confirmation hearing, when the focus was primarily on reproductive rights and before sexual assault became an issue.
Donald Trump, of course, is screeching on Twitter about how the protesters are "paid" and funded by "Soros," because it is impossible for him imagine that women might actually have minds of their own.
Let's be clear that the women clogging up the halls of Congress are not paid or idiots or children or harpies. These protests are being led by women who are speaking out about their own experiences with sexual abuse. This dismissal of the intelligence or honesty of sexual assault survivors is sadly not surprising. That is how women's stories of sexual abuse have been discredited since forever. That's how Christine Blasey Ford's moving testimony against Kavanaugh is being discredited. This has nothing to do with what's true or most believable or most backed by evidence. It's about asserting that women's voices have no value, no matter what they're saying or how true it is.
Feminists have had fun with our jokes about "misandry" or "well-behaved women seldom make history" bumper stickers. But truth be told, most of us have still lived in the abiding hope that being good girls who ask nicely will get us closer to equality. Certainly that was the main theme of Clinton's campaign, which highlighted her hard work, her qualifications and her demeanor of grandmotherly kindness. Her supporters largely followed that lead, keeping their gripes about sexism to private Facebook groups and listservs and putting on a cheerful face to the world.
For that, Clinton got called a "nasty woman" and lost anyway.
Christine Blasey Ford's testimony was more of the same. She had a soft, girlish voice and a winsome demeanor, completely without guile. She was vulnerable, not angry. She came across as someone who really believed that if the Senate knew the truth, it would do the right thing.
Now she's getting smeared as a liar or a crazy woman and lost anyway.
In the instant classic work of feminist philosophy, "Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny," Kate Manne disputes the naive conception of misogyny as some sort of knee-jerk hatred of women. Instead, she argues that it's about the policing of women. A misogynist is perfectly happy with women if they behave the way he wants them to, by being servile and pleasing. But when women start to resist their assigned role and start insisting on respect, justice and equality, the fangs will come out.
We saw the truth of Manne's theory play out throughout this Kavanaugh hearing. Oh, we heard so much about how Kavanaugh loved the silent, smiling women and girls who were brought out to flank him at every public appearance. A great deal of attention was paid to letting us know exactly how much Kavanaugh adores the women who populate his world and take orders from him, such as his law clerks and the girls on the basketball team he coaches.
But when women started saying no to him and started speaking up, he got red-faced, screaming and self-pitying. Republicans in Congress were so deeply moved by his performance because they, too, cannot believe these women who think they have a right to speak out. That was why it had to be Brett Kavanaugh, rather than substituting in some other right-wing judge with equivalent qualifications and fewer allegations of drunken sexual assault.  Because Republican misogyny is not an act, and the party and its followers eagerly seized this opportunity to put women in their place.

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"