MY WORK ... MY PASSION
~ Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience ~ Psychotherapist / Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience ~ EMDR~ Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship ~ Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ~ ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience ~ Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant ~ Social Justice Advocate ~ Child and Human Rights Advocate ~ Spiritual Guide and Intuitive ~ Certified Reiki Practitioner ~ Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups ~ Parenting Workshops ~ Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children ~ International Training: Israel & England ~ Critical Incident Stress Debriefing ~ Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer
BSW - UNC Greensboro
MSW - UNC Chapel Hill
"An Unending Love"
This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my daughter, my grand daughters, and my grand son. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.
The degree of our enlightenment is the degree of passion that we will have for the whole world." ~The Greystone Mandala
~The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.
In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning. I think of it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before. "As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink," God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."
Saturday, October 31, 2015
When we we there, I took many photos. But one I took and treasure deeply is one of the corner of a rock wall behind my room. It was so significant as a nexus of all my feelings in that space. It seemed to me, then and now, that is was a symbol of grounding ... of strength ... of the flood of my lessons there ... of deep appreciation of a few who were determined not to allow me to slide into not participating because of insecurity (I was the youngest (in therapeutic practice years, but not chronological age!). In progressing, I sure made my share of mistakes which, unbelievably, I remember as if it were yesterday. From close people there, I experienced no shortage of gentle and clear confrontation ... all deeply beneficial to this day, this minute.
When I returned, and people asked me the usual "vacation" questions, I discovered that I could barely answer, save some rather rote and pleasant response. To this day, some 16 years later, it is still a "diamond in my heart", of more carats than I could ever count..... still uneffable.
This link is about Neve Shalom:
Neve Shalom - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Since I had not spoken with Jerry or Willy since, I decided to look them up. It was then that it became apparent that Jerry had passed almost two years ago.
One would have to know how unspeakable that training experience was, as provided by these 3 gifted psychotherapists.
It is actually wrenching not to go into detail about the training and its mark upon my life, personally and professionally, but this is in memory of Jerry, whose professional life is detailed below, so it is surely best that Jerry 'speaks'.
I am posting it, because it reveals to me, my own experience of Jerry. His being a mensch (a person of integrity and honor; a good person) came alive again for me in this brief video, particularly his discussions about aging and permission.
Jerry speaks about teaching. My experience of him for those days, was that he was a teacher even when he wasn't. In viewing this, I hope your intuition and experience of Jerry is as rich as I encountered in viewing.
Friday, October 30, 2015
"The secret to love is that it is the quality of our love for others, not how much someone loves us, that makes us happy. This means we don’t need to “find the right person” we just need to develop and improve our own love for as many people as we can. We may feel that we only really love a few people, but actually our potential to love is limitless! The more people we love, and the purer our love is, the happier we will be."
In my view, love is the lifelong lesson. We throw that word out so casually, so flippantly, and so thoughtlessly ... that the rich depth is totally obscured. I reflect upon my own use of that word over the decades of my life with a gentle forgiving smile to myself, because the depth and essence becomes clearer every week I live.
When I was young, or even younger than the present, I would always come to discover that the embodiment of what I then felt, I now see as a less complete notion. I have no doubt whatsoever that I will see the present love I experience in the same way. At least I hope I do.
Love is not really about anything "other than the Other". So many, as did I, sink into their own projections of another. In essence, that is rather disrespectful, because we have created the Other as what we want them to be....and not who they really are.
Love, to me, is often experienced over years of the vicissitudes and uncertainty we may have unswervingly experienced with the Other. Of course, frequently, we have made healthy decisions to disengage, yet we can still honor that person's journey through life. That can have many endings, too assorted to review here.
At the same time, we remain healthily detached from others who appear to be at odds with our values. The article asserts:
"There is no perfect person, but there is perfect love. We need to build real love in our heart. This doesn’t happen overnight, but by gradually improving the quality of our love, we are moving towards a goal worth working for–real, unconditional love. If we can love for the right reasons, unchanging reasons, then our love for all living beings will increase through our personal relationships."
“It is sometimes very difficult to distinguish between our love and our attachment for others, but when we are able to do so, we will see that it is invariably the attachment that is the cause of our suffering. Pure unconditional love never causes any pain or worry but only peace and joy.”
–Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
This is a brief, but cogent article...hope you enjoy!CLICK HERE TO READ!
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
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Celine Dion and Andrea Bocelli are two of the world's preeminent singers. This rendition deeply moves me as I watch the interplay between this illustrious pair. There is tenderness, a loving admiration of one another, and a passion for their art which is so very sweet, it touches the very soul........ their sympatico is utterly exquisite.
Celine, a quintessential and archetypal feminine portrait, has a voice like a bird, and shows unique sensitivity about the magic she is aware they are both offering to their audience. Andrea's face throughout, his micro expressions as well as his larger facial shifts in pleasure, about this song with Celine, put a lump in my throat...and tears of utter reverence and enjoyment in my eyes. It may be true that Bocelli does not see with his eyes, yet he clearly "sees" with his touch, insight, love, and vocal majesty.
Tenth Insight: At this level of expanded consciousness, we become clearly aware of the life and death cycle of humanity. The Afterlife becomes, not as an abstract idea, but as a real place with real activities. As this rapid spiritualization continues, the veil between Earth and Heaven begins to part, and we rise to sense and feel those in the afterlife with a new reality.
“Evolution is speeding up, not time. Consciousness is evolving, becoming aware of itself as creation's mentor. Children are evolution's front edge. They push at boundaries... challenge the status quo...irritate convention. That is their job...to set free all that sullies the human heart and blinds the mind to the relationship between the Creator and the Created." ~ P.M.H. Atwater~
Who really knows if all of the transitions in the article will evolve? In any case, it is interesting to consider this world as portrayed by the author.
If this all occurs, my grandchildren are wandering into quite a future. Clearly, they will need every bit of spirit, strength and fortitude we can send them off with!
Parents can not really predict just what those skills will be, nor the indomitable nature our grandchildren and ALL children will have to have at their core. In my view, it is a "Note to Self" for parents to spend time trying to wrap their mind around that future in order to guide their parental steps with these precious people.
And the article, while speculative, provides a sense of how and why children are coming into this world very differently than previous generations.
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Monday, October 26, 2015
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Friday, October 23, 2015
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Thursday, October 22, 2015
Saturday, October 17, 2015
I was once told by one of the dearest people in my life, "You always think about things in sexual terms" . Well, yes and no. To me, sexuality is our True Atman.....the Zen of inner majesty...the tension of opposites....the "I AM" ... the Ying / Yang.....and the indisputable proof of non-duality in our Universe. When one feels its brilliance in those terms, it never takes on less than a cavernous pursuit of humanity....and becomes the matrix and intersection of the masculine and feminine in the most raw and psychological terms.
Being deeply moved by almost every song and phase of Gray's, I am hard pressed to say which album or song is my favorite of his. However, his "Coming Down" is "unplugged" lyrical fertility about the loving sexual act. While it is its own metaphor, it is not an overreach to say that the piece is penetrating in its potency.
Hidden in the folds of the feminine is also the melancholy reality of objectification in some sex acts...yet the path to that reality is one of the most arresting and experiential portrayals of the power of the sex act I have experienced, save some of the poetry of Robert Bly.
While it would be best advised to leave to the reader's own imagination the mystery of the allegory , that wisdom is counter-balanced by the desire of this writer to make it easier for you, i.e., to "do some of your own work for you". But some phrase simplification will do the trick. You will undoubtedly have many of your own......hence, the genius of David Gray. So.........
-"tears falling slow": pre-ejaculation and resulting female quickening
-"the bridge into the river": the insertion of the lover's penis, in answer to the moist invitation of his lover...
-the "starry veil, ocean of infinity": the infinite, abundant meeting place within the female...the stars in the dewy sky...and her earth's undulating waves.
-"moon and stars above me": the moon symbol for the feminine, encompassing mystery,
with its shrouded and diffuse illumination (whereas the sun of the male represents the focused, and piercing male essence and power).
-"I'm trying to spell what only the wind can explain": the male describes his own creative artistry within his lover's most secret place. It is in one of these moments, and places, where a male is most fierce and expressive. There, he tries to spell the language of his inner god with his organ so, but then "coming down" creates a grief... for it is then "colder than ever".
-"there's neon melting in the rain": the increasing detumescence of the man's organ after climax
-"I got a sword to stem the rivers and cut the moon in half"...a phrase which causes one to almost cease breathing, with it's electrifying imagery ... and its utterly potent fresco...
While Gray's stirring lyrical mural is quite sufficient for the language of Eros, the erotic expression of the entire song is exponentially multiplied by hearing his passionate musical rendition, which I have posted below.
Unsurprisingly.... the album's name is, "FLESH".
Monday, October 12, 2015
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Dear ones, in this time of change and new beginnings, we urge you to let go of any remaining expectations, for expectation only serves to hold you in concepts--mind pictures representing something you have read or listened to with regard to ascension.
You are creating a new world, not forming it out of what is already known. Learn to rest in the "now" at all times, knowing that this is a spiritual universe and all are spiritual beings while allowing each day to unfold without resistance. This practice will lead you into an ever deepening consciousness of love and gratitude as you begin to see everything as being part of a Divine plan no matter how difficult or "unholy" it may appear to three dimensional thinking.
As we have previously stated: This does not mean being a "doormat" or allowing oneself to stay in an unsafe environment. Lifetimes past and present held struggle and very little support for those seeking truth but those times have drawn to a close for most of you. You have done the work, often being punished for it and it is now time to rest, live, and be that which you have attained. One cannot stay in grade school after they are ready for high school or college just because a friend or someone close may still need grade school, or even because some "expert" says they must.
The time has come for all serious students of truth to move into their power as awakened spiritual beings, while at the same time moving courageously through whatever remnants of the "old " may still operate in or affect them. As an individual evolves into new and higher ways of resolving karmic issues and remaining lessons, he no longer needs the intense problems, accidents, and difficulties previously required for awakening. Most of you are there now.
On earth there will always be difficulties of some sort whether yours or another's but now you have new, higher, and guided tools with which to resolve them. You are powerful beings of Light, but this truth must be acknowledged and lived until it becomes a state of consciousness and not just nice words in a book. If an individual is ready to take this step but refuses to leave what is old, comfortable, and familiar he will probably get "wake up calls" in the form of difficult experiences serving to force him deeper and into what he is spiritually ready for. Victimhood can no longer be a part of the consciousness of serious students of truth. Most are not aware of how much change is actually taking place. Note world movements for peace, animal rights, freedom of information, and other issues that 20 years ago would not of been considered important by the vast majority.
Notice also how people are starting to take a long hard look at commonly accepted beliefs as well as examining more closely the motives and intent of world "leaders".
You are reclaiming your innate power through listening to, resonating with, and living out from inner guidance instead of blindly aligning with the often limiting concepts of some expert, government, church, or person. You are learning to stand in the power of Self which does not mean that you can never be taught truth from an evolved minister, expert, teacher, or friend. However, bottom line must always be yours, based in an inner knowing of what is right and appropriate for you.
We wish to speak of the new energies. Most of you were aware of the full moon and eclipse bringing high light frequencies. Do not believe that "nothing happened" based on appearances for new Light energies did come and are available but the integration of them only takes place as an individual is capable of receiving them. Very few are able to fully integrate high frequencies all at once because the physical, emotional and mental bodies must be prepared to accept and resonate with them. Never doubt that your Higher Self will see to it that you receive everything you are ready for as you are ready without effort on your part other than to live out from your highest sense of truth. Always remember that you are being guided, and assisted at all times. No one, not even the very un-awakened are ever left to struggle through a life on earth alone. Your job as evolving students of truth is to rest in the awareness that this is a spiritual universe, governed by Love, and peopled with spiritual beings. Do not spend time worrying about whether or not you are ascending or "doing it right". Living out from your highest sense of right in each moment is all that is required. So much third dimensional thinking regarding spirituality is limiting--how experiences must look or feel in order to be valid. These are concepts based in and handed down from someone's belief system. Experiences others may of had were valid for them, but may not necessarily be right for you.
DNA will activate as you are ready, chakras will be clear and open as you are ready, and 5th dimensional experiences will happen as you are ready. All the courses taken, practices engaged in, and efforts put forth to attain these things can help, but the fullness of the experience cannot take place until the soul is prepared. Hold the intention to evolve while practicing what you already know and more will be given. Ascension does not simply drop into ones lap without preparation. Each step taken along the way of lifetimes adds to and finally brings forth a fully aware state of consciousness that results in your creations manifesting outwardly on increasingly higher levels. Love everything. Love the bad" as well as the "good". Love your faults and love those who do not love you. Love the thoughts that pop into your head that may cause you to react with fear, anger, resentment, jealousy etc. for there is nothing but GOD and as you learn to love everything, you stop giving appearances power causing them to lose their "punch". An evolved state of consciousness automatically dissolves old learned behaviors and beliefs such as being "less than" or "unworthy".
Learn to laugh at honest mistakes and you will soon discover that the sky doesn't fall down, your Guides don't leave you, nor do you stop spiritually growing when you make a wrong choice. This is what lifetimes spent in the third dimension have been about--stepping and falling, stepping and falling.. You chose to be here and you learned. Most of you are now finding or will soon find yourselves assisting others to also grow and learn who and what they are. Rejoice in every opportunity whether it is just throwing out a seed of truth or actually teaching another but never seek out students, force, proselytize, or work to "save" someone for there is only ONE and that ONE doesn't need "saving". As you radiate more Light, you will attract some who seek to have your Light instead of finding their own.
These dear ones are not usually interested nor prepared for the deeper truths. Those ready for what you may have to give them will find you. Trust your intuition and allow yourselves to be guided as to the readiness of any who seek you out. Keep your work with others on the level of compassion and not sympathy, for sympathy will align with the other's lower resonating energy. Compassion is a more detached way of viewing another's issues and allows you to offer the words necessary for the person to hear at their level of awareness while you continue to hold your Light.