MY WORK ... MY PASSION
~ Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience ~ Psychotherapist / Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience ~ EMDR~ Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship ~ Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ~ ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience ~ Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant ~ Social Justice Advocate ~ Child and Human Rights Advocate ~ Spiritual Guide and Intuitive ~ Certified Reiki Practitioner ~ Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups ~ Parenting Workshops ~ Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children ~ International Training: Israel & England ~ Critical Incident Stress Debriefing ~ Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer
BSW - UNC Greensboro
MSW - UNC Chapel Hill
"An Unending Love"
This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my daughter, my grand daughters, and my grand son. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.
The degree of our enlightenment is the degree of passion that we will have for the whole world." ~The Greystone Mandala
~The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.
In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning. I think of it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before. "As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink," God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."
Sunday, November 29, 2015
I was at a Thankgsgiving F-E-A-S-T this past week. It was not only a feast of food, although it surely was that. From any aspect, it was very clear about the abundant outcomes that happen when we humans join forces.... for anything.
I experienced a group of people, thankfully all very human.....but it was the tapestry of their individual divinities that showered over all of me. As I slept that evening, it was like "visions of sugar plums dancing in my head", as I would remember one moment after another.
The man who asked the blessing gave his own special brand of depth and insight to the day: a total gift. Until then, I had always seen his ready wit, sense of "I'm in" fun, and athletic, buffed appearance. I am not really sure what I expected from his blessing over family and food, but profound is what I got! He later teased that he had shortened it somewhat, because he usually got the collective "throat clearing" of the family members eager to "dig in". I have to say, I was wishing he had gone longer.
What amazed me throughout the day, and which was very different than my own very extended family, was the mature, and even sacred, way they had of putting aside the everyday silliness of the "stuff" we humans manage to inflict on one another. Oh, sure, there were teeny, almost imperceptible, ripples ... but those were so fleeting and brief. Why? The underpinning of caring, respect, and love trumped that. We even got into some family pictures towards the end of the evening .... the biggest gift here? It was what the family members pointed out was really important over the years. Therein was the sacredness...and the Divine at work.
This family redefined my concept of family, love, and strength. I still feel a high measure of enjoyment from that extended family who know what the priorities in this life are. They knew the vississitudes, the bumps in the road ... all of that. That, for me is what defines heroines and heros: those people who literally smirk at what life sometimes throws our way ... that which could buckle the best of us. In the most blessed character, these people showed me how they stand indomitably and indestructibly .. and try to keep character and compassion as their staunch and main theme.
They know who they are, this family of five adult children, all raised by their single mom. This family tries very hard to make the lyrics of this song come alive. Simply compelling!
And so, this family made "let's pretend"...very REAL!
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Saturday, November 28, 2015
e Pilgrims were, of course, migrants seeking refuge from intolerance and threats, hardship and violence. It is the recollection of their experience that underpins the deeply rooted American values not just of welcoming the stranger but of respecting religious diversity...."CLICK HERE TO READ MORE...
Is Narcissism Genetic? - The Narcissistic Life
Wednesday, November 25, 2015
Tuesday, November 24, 2015
The self-doubt rapidly dissipates once you withdraw all projections about that person who gaslights. It may not be a rapid process, but once you fully understand the "gaslighter's" attempt to be abusive, you can again breathe, and that feeling is pristine, rosy-cheeked, and unblemished!
The sadness exists that you had wished more from that person, perhaps having put them on a pedestal in your mind and value system. In the end, you finally understand that much of what they tried to teach you was sort of a "false flag", i.e., perhaps really good principles to teach to an Other. In the end, you may discover that the very essence of what they tried to teach you is their wish at the basis of their own darkness; however was nothing they actually possessed.
Your belief that they possessed a particular "brand" of integrity is likely projected by you upon them. For many reasons, that projection ends up being "awesome" news for you. Yet that is a discussion for a different time.
More important is the definition of "false flag".
While fairly military in meaning, it is a perfect fit for the person who, in your life, is the gaslighter:
Historically the term "false flag" has its origins in naval warfare where the use of a flag other than the belligerent's true battle flag as a ruse de guerre, before engaging the enemy, has long been accepted but the contemporary term False flag describes covert operations that are designed to deceive in such a way that the operations appear as though they are being carried out by entities, groups, or nations other than those who actually planned and executed them.Operations carried out during peace-time by civilian organizations, as well as covert government agencies, may (by extension) be called false flag operations if they seek to hide the real organization behind an operation.
Monday, November 23, 2015
"But if you have failed one or more times to achieve lasting sobriety after rehab, perhaps after spending tens of thousands of dollars, you’re not alone. And chances are, it’s not your fault.Of the 23.5 million teenagers and adults addicted to alcohol or drugs, only about 1 in 10 gets treatment, which too often fails to keep them drug-free....."CLICK HERE TO READ MORE..
"In the 1980s, addiction models were becoming increasingly popular, and Patrick Carnes’sex addiction model tagged onto that wave. Twelve-step groups on behavioral addictions were forming everywhere. The groups, as well as the information, were easily accessible, and clients understood the concept immediately. I became a certified sex addiction therapist, and fully embraced the model until 2010 when I began to see some serious flaws. For instance, ........."CLICK HERE TO READ MORE...
In time and with practice, one's life becomes one of entire gratitude and positivity. To say nothing of the physical outcomes of meditation which have been scientifically acclaimed for their efficacy.
In my life experience, I discovered that there is no event that does not, within its kernel, hold both gratitude and humor.
I even doubted my own belief initially, as we learn about the full horrific events in Paris and Mali, as well as many other "news" events. Yet....wasn't it just this past week that SNL already found some humor within the totality of the situation? (The totality, not the deaths.) It is simply a matter of timing, and when we are ready for the tension of opposites. It is usually then that we can look at our own entirety.
This is an excellent meditation, IMO. Please enjoy, should you decide to honor yourself for a simple 16 minutes.
Sunday, November 22, 2015
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"You’re with someone you’ve just met, and within seconds you feel that there’s something wrong with you.
Up until meeting this person, you were having a pretty good day, but now you’re starting to question everything from the way you look to the accomplishments you’ve racked up over your life so far. Let’s say the person is the mother of one of your children’s playmates. Not only does she seem perfectly outfitted, but in simply introducing herself, she’s made it clear that she’s got an important job and a perfect family life, and that she associates with all the right people..."CLICK HERE TO READ MORE...
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Saturday, November 21, 2015
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Thursday, November 19, 2015
Some people are ruthless. Some lose control. Yet most violence remains unfathomable. A new theory lights up the darkness....CLICK HERE TO READ EXCELLENT ARTICLE ON INTER-PERSONAL VIOLENCE
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