MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Showing posts with label civility. Show all posts
Showing posts with label civility. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

"Overcoming Civility" ~ Lloyd Thomas, Ph.D.

By Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.

       Ever since the "massacre" in Columbine High School almost 10 years
ago, we have become painfully aware of the lack of civility among our
own children.  Shootings and killings in our schools, colleges and
streets have clearly demonstrated the need to teach our youth basic
principles of relating in a civil manner.

       In 2001, a small group of people living in Tucson, Arizona began an
initiative to "Restore Civility to the American Way of Life."  Today,
that initiative has been renamed and is called, "Choose Civility Now"
(www.choosecivilitynow.org).  In a recent flyer, this organization
wrote, "The time is long overdue for creating a greater number of
opportunities for our children to develop the kind of character that
evolves from the presence of an 'internal force'... The right spirit!
If each of us begins to model the internal force of respect,
reverence, and responsibility, the day will come when we can
..declare victory over hate, violence, prejudice, and all of the
other acts of human failings."

       In his book, Choosing Civility, the 25 Rules of Considerate Conduct,
P.M. Forni offers a strategic plan for restoring compassion, respect
and "unyielding hope" in all our interpersonal relationships.  If our
elected leadership were to incorporate Forni's 25 rules in their
political conduct, I suspect such behavior would "trickle down" to our
corporations, businesses, schools and even our homes.  Wouldn't that
be amazing?

       In support of the effort to restore civility in all our interactions
and in our interpersonal relationships, I present "Fifteen Principles
of Civility" adapted from the flyer published by "Choose Civility
Now."

-->Pay attention.  That to which we attend becomes stronger in our
mental life.

-->Listen.  Actively listening to another shows him/her genuine
respect.

-->Speak kindly.  Even when expressing opposing points of view.

-->Assume the best.  Always go for a win/win outcome.

-->Respect others' opinions.  Even when you completely disagree.

-->Respect other people's time and space.  Even as you want them to
respect yours.

-->Be inclusive.  Invite others to participate in discussions and
activities.

-->Acknowledge others.  Everyone has some positive personal
characteristics.

-->Accept and give praise.  Everyone wants acceptance and positive
feedback.

-->Apologize earnestly.  And sincerely.

-->Assert yourself.  Replace aggression with assertion of your wants
and needs.

-->Take responsibility.  Being responsible strengthens your
self-confidence.

-->Accept and give [only] constructive criticism [suggestions and
advice].

-->Refrain from idle complaints.  Complaining accomplishes nothing.

-->Be a considerate guest.

       Probably all of the above principles can be summed up in one
familiar " golden rule:"  "Always treat others the way you want to be
treated."

"Let civility become your mentor
Let its loving light always shine.
Let its right spirit forever guide you
To a lifestyle that's near divine."
                       .....Choose Civility Now

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Dr. Thomas is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and life
coach.  He serves on the faculty of the International University of
Professional Studies. He recently co-authored (with Patrick Williams)
the book: "Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills and
Techniques for Enhancing Your Practice...and Your Life!" (W.W. Norton
2005) It is available at your local bookstore or on Amazon.com.

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"