MY WORK ... MY PASSION

• Certified Transpersonal Hypnotherapist ; Past experiences: Dream Analysis /10 Years Experience •Psychotherapist / Use of Gestalt, Jungian, Zen, Reality and Energy Therapies /10 Years Experience •EMDR • Men and Their Journey: the neuroscience of the male brain, and the implications in sexuality, education and relationship • Women: Their Transformation and Empowerment ATOD (Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs) / 21 years experience •Ordained Interfaith Minister & Official Celebrant • Social Justice Advocate • Child and Human Rights Advocate • Spiritual Guide and Intuitive • Certified Reiki Practitioner • Mediation / Conflict Resolution • “Intentional Love” Parenting Strategy Groups • Parenting Workshops • Coaching for parents of Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow Children • International Training: Israel & England • Critical Incident Stress Debriefing • Post-911 and Post-Katrina volunteer

MSW - UNC Chapel Hill

BSW - UNC Greensboro


With immense love I wish Happy Birthday to my three grandchildren!

May 22: Brannock

May 30: Brinkley

June 12: Brogan

All three have birthdays in the same 22 days of the year ....what a busy time for the family!

"An Unending Love"

This blog and video is devoted and dedicated to my precious daughter Jennifer, my grand daughters Brogan and Brinkley, and my grand son Brannock. They are hearts of my heart. Our connection through many lives..... is utterly infinite.




The Definition of Genius

"THRIVE"

https://youtu.be/Lr-RoQ24lLg

"ONLY LOVE PREVAILS" ...."I've loved you for a thousand years; I'll love you for a thousand more....."


As we are in the winter of our lives, I dedicate this to Andrew, Dr. John J.C. Jr. and Gary W., MD, (who has gone on before us). My love and admiration is unfathomable for each of you..........and what you have brought into this world.....so profoundly to me.
The metaphors are rich and provocative; we're in them now. This world is indeed disappearing, and the richest eternal world awaits us!
The intensity, as was in each of the three of us, is in yellow!
In my heart forever.........

Slowly the truth is loading
I'm weighted down with love
Snow lying deep and even
Strung out and dreaming of
Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world

We're threading hope like fire

Down through the desperate blood
Down through the trailing wire
Into the leafless wood

Night falling on the city
Quite something to behold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


I'll be sticking right there with it
I'll be by y
our side
Sailing like a silver bullet
Hit 'em 'tween the eyes
Through the smoke and rising water
Cross the great divide
Baby till it all feels right

Night falling on the city
Sparkling red and gold
Don't it just look so pretty
This disappearing world
This
disappearing world
This disappearing world
This disappearing world


TECHNOLOGY..........

In “Conversations with God”, by Neale Donald Walsch, there is a warning I think of. I refer to it as the Atlantis passage, and I've quoted it a few times before." As I have said, this isn't the first time your civilization has been at this brink,"

God tells Walsch. "I want to repeat this, because it is vital that you hear this. Once before on your planet, the technology you developed was far greater than your ability to use it responsibly. You are approaching the same point in human history again. It is vitally important that you understand this. Your present technology is threatening to outstrip your ability to use it wisely. Your society is on the verge of becoming a product of your technology rather than your technology being a product of your society. When a society becomes a product of its own technology, it destroys itself."

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Thoughts of the Tenth Insight



Tenth Insight:    At this level of expanded consciousness, we  become clearly aware of the life and death cycle of humanity. The Afterlife becomes, not as an abstract idea, but as a real place with real activities. As this rapid spiritualization continues, the veil between Earth and Heaven begins to part, and we rise to sense and feel those in the afterlife with a new reality.

 ~James Redfield ~

"Note to Self" and to those I love so deeply....


25 Mind-Blowing Ways Society Is About To Completely Change |

At the top of this blog, I have a quote about our children of this world.  It has always had deep meaning for me, about my family, my work, and my friends:

“Evolution is speeding up, not time. Consciousness is evolving, becoming aware of itself as creation's mentor. Children are evolution's front edge. They push at boundaries... challenge the status quo...irritate convention. That is their job...to set free all that sullies the human heart and blinds the mind to the relationship between the Creator and the Created." ~ P.M.H. Atwater~

Who really knows if all of the transitions in the article will evolve?  In any case, it is interesting to consider this world as portrayed by the author.  
If this all occurs, my grandchildren are wandering into quite a future.  Clearly, they will need every bit of spirit, strength and fortitude we can send them off with!

Parents can not really predict just what those skills will be, nor the indomitable nature our grandchildren and ALL children will have to have at their core. In my view, it is a "Note to Self" for parents to spend time trying to wrap their mind around that future in order to guide their parental steps with these precious people.

And the article, while speculative, provides a sense of how and why children are coming into this world very differently than previous generations.


CLICK HERE TO READ: 25 Mind-Blowing Ways Society Is About To Completely Change |

Monday, October 26, 2015

The narcissistic parent | Brainwashing Children

In my study of mental child abuse I’ve noticed how prevalent it is that the child abuser is highly narcissistic.
What’s a narcissistic parent? It’s someone who is self-absorbed, authoritarian (watch out for their outbursts), negative, a know-it-all, never culpable or blameworthy for anything, highly critical of others, secretive, cunning and conniving, manipulative, exploitive, stingy with others (but not themselves), ungrateful, a pathological liar (twists the truth with incredible ease), envious and competitive, deaf to other’s opinions, has zero empathy, doesn’t listen, doesn’t seek agreement (not a single ounce of agreeableness), brags and exaggerates, plays favorites (and it’s a rotating favorite list at that), has no boundaries, never asks you any questions, inept at basic manners, lacks a sense of humor (especially at themselves), and excels at making others feel guilty… He or she is one unhappy person who can successfully convince their targets that they are needed, and that without them their targets would be nothing.
Looking at these traits,........ CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING THIS IMPORTANT ARTICLE!

Saturday, October 24, 2015

Henri Bergson ~ "...those with spiritual immune systems"


Six Domains of Psychological Well-being | Psychology Today

Please rate your levels of self-acceptance, which refers to the degree positive attitudes you have about yourself, your past behaviors and the choices that you have made. 

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Friday, October 23, 2015

"force of character" by Marc Chernoff


The Force of Character and the Lasting Life | Book Reviews | Books | Spirituality & Practice

Over time, this offering from James Hillman, has inspired me through numerous readings of many excerpts.  As I review my life, I know many people, myself included, who constantly aspire to growth in their way of tenacious application.  At the same time, in my own life, I can count essentially on one hand the people I believe deserve a diamond.  They are each in the fall/winter of their life, yet will never "quit" until they turn aside from this earth.  It is they who have me believe in some place where I will again meet them.  That, it is said, will be for eternity.



CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE ABOUT HILLMAN'S BOOK

The Sun Magazine | Old Soul / How Aging Reveals Character

Old Soul

How Aging Reveals Character — A Conversation With James Hillman

by GENIE ZEIGER:  "I first became acquainted with the work of James Hillman ten years ago through A Blue Fire(HarperPerennial), a selection of his writings edited by Thomas Moore. Since then, Hillman has become my personal King Solomon, an intellectual hero, the one writer whom, though sometimes baffling, I read again and again, then say aloud in astonishment, “I never thought of that.” Thanks in part to Moore’s distillation and clarification of Hillman’s work, I have come to see such themes as architecture, suicide, jealousy, love, and family in startling, fresh ways.
Most important to me is Hillman’s emphasis on embracing all aspects of one’s nature as being rooted in the divine. He uses the Greek gods as a model for this need to honor, not transcend, the war god, the jealous god, the depressed god. He condemns the New Age insistence on transformation, on sloughing off the “old” self and becoming some new, idealized person. Instead, he urges a deepening of personal traits that are set at birth.
Hillman’s writing is bold and imaginative. He readily employs the poet’s technique ..... AUGUST 2000 | ISSUE 296
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"Nonduality: What Is It?" / http://nonduality.org/what-is-nonduality/

What is Nonduality?

Nonduality means “not two” or “nonseparation.” It is the sense that all things are interconnected and not separate, while at the same time all things retain their individuality. An awareness of nonduality gives you a bigger perspective on life, a greater sense of freedom, and brings you a more stable happiness.
Why do we need to know about nonduality? How is it helpful?
The word nonduality is commonly seen in the spiritual press and blogs. Nonduality bears on quantum physics, movies, education, psychology, ecology, sexuality, art, music, dance, organizational theory, and many other fields. A knowledge of nonduality can change the way we look at ourselves and the world. That change is in the direction of a unified perspective. This perspective, if pursued, is found to go far and deep.
The Perception of Nonduality
If you have ever had a sense or experience of “something” deeper and more meaningful that lies beyond the everyday you, yet that is you in some way, you have had a taste of nonduality.
The taste of nonduality is the sense or experience of unity, peace, “something” vaster than the everyday you. The taste may be known through an experience in nature, from music or art, from being deeply involved in a hobby or work, from being in the “zone” during an athletic event, from sex, a walk in the park, dance, surfing, having a few beers, or other social interaction.
It may be known in meditation, Yoga, any other spiritual practice, a near death experience, while driving your car, or in the midst of any activity, or for no apparent reason at all.
If you have ever felt deeply dissatisfied, intensely unhappy, psychically imprisoned, it might be said that you can only feel this dissatisfaction because part of you knows there is a place of freedom. That freedom is the experience of nonduality. Your unhappiness may be viewed as the hunger for the taste of nonduality, nonseparateness.
The Pursuit of Nonduality
After experiencing or sensing the taste of nonduality, you may begin to pursue nonduality. Your pursuit may take you to books, teachers, ashrams, India, Internet groups. You may engage spiritual practices, attend meetings with nondual teachers, go on retreats.
Since you are not separate from the “something” that is deeper, vaster, more meaningful than the everyday you, it follows that this pursuit is the discovery of who you really are.
For whatever reason you are here, congratulations on discovering nonduality and looking beyond the everyday you.
Some short descriptions of what nonduality is:
“The concept, often described in English as “nondualism,” is extremely hard for the mind to grasp or visualize, since the mind engages constantly in the making of distinctions and nondualism represents the rejection or transcendence of all distinctions.”
–from The Lotus Sutra translated by Burton Watson

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Saturday, October 17, 2015

"Coming Down" by David Gray; a profound metaphor of loving sex

It is an understatement to say that David Gray is, over decades, my favorite rock lyricist, singer, and writer. Impressions of his incomparable mastery of metaphor, his clear passion for his work, and his ability to wrench feeling and emotion from his heart to gift to the listener are nearly without parallel. 

I was once told by one of the dearest people in my life, "You always think about things in sexual terms" .  Well, yes and no.  To me, sexuality is our True Atman.....the Zen of inner majesty...the tension of opposites....the "I AM" ... the Ying / Yang.....and the indisputable proof of  non-duality in our Universe.  When one feels its brilliance in those terms, it never takes on less than a cavernous pursuit of humanity....and becomes the matrix and intersection of the masculine and feminine in the most raw and psychological terms.


Being deeply moved by almost every song and phase of Gray's, I am hard pressed to say which album or song is my favorite of his.  However, his "Coming Down" is  "unplugged" lyrical fertility about the loving sexual act. While it is its own metaphor, it is not an overreach to say that the piece is penetrating in its potency.  


Hidden in the folds of the feminine is also the melancholy reality of objectification in some sex acts...yet the path to that reality is one of the most arresting and experiential portrayals of the power of the sex act  I have experienced, save some of the poetry of Robert Bly.


While it would be best advised to leave to the reader's own imagination the mystery of the allegory , that wisdom is counter-balanced by the desire of this writer to make it easier for you, i.e., to "do some of your own work for you".  But some phrase simplification will do the trick.  You will undoubtedly have many of your own......hence, the genius of David Gray.  So.........


-"tears falling slow":  pre-ejaculation and resulting female quickening


-"the bridge into the river":  the insertion of the lover's penis, in answer to the moist invitation of his lover...


-the "starry veil, ocean of infinity":  the infinite, abundant meeting place within the female...the stars in the dewy sky...and her earth's undulating waves.


-"moon and stars above me":  the moon symbol for the feminine, encompassing mystery,

with its shrouded and diffuse illumination (whereas the sun of the male represents the focused, and piercing male essence and power).

-"I'm trying to spell what only the wind can explain":  the male describes his own creative artistry within his lover's most secret place. It is in one of these moments, and places, where a male is most fierce and expressive. There, he tries to spell the language of his inner god with his organ so,  but then "coming down" creates a grief... for it is then "colder than ever".


-"there's neon melting in the rain":  the increasing detumescence of the man's organ after climax


-"I got a sword to stem the rivers and cut the moon in half"...a phrase which causes one to almost cease breathing, with it's electrifying imagery ... and its utterly potent fresco...


While Gray's stirring lyrical mural is quite sufficient for the language of Eros, the erotic expression of the entire song is exponentially multiplied by hearing his passionate musical rendition, which I have posted below. 


Unsurprisingly.... the album's name is, "FLESH".

Monday, October 12, 2015

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Low Heart Rate in Men May Predict Criminal Behavior

.....In the study, the researchers analyzed information from more than 710,000 men who had their heart rate measured when they were about 18 years old, as part of a test for military service that was mandatory in Sweden until 2009.
The researchers divided the men into five groups based on their heart rate. They found....CLICK HERE TO READ!

Ben Carson’s Religion, Explained | ThinkProgress

AKA, SOME kind of epiphany!  Do you believe it?

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Monday, October 5, 2015

"The Dark Truth Of John Boehner's Resignation" (aka more toxicity by Hucklebee)

"When forced to explain this supposed "contempt," numerous Republicans (even presidential candidates) list not only Boehner's (non-existent) failure to stop Obamacare, but also his supposed enabling of Obamacare.  As Mike Huckabee explained, "When people sent [Republicans] here, they didn't send them to give the president more power on Obamacare[.]" Think about that: after total legislative obstruction, a government shut-down, more than 50 votes to repeal Obamacare, an ensuing presidential election, two Supreme Court lawsuits, and other pending litigation - - Republicans are livid with the belief that John Boehner has worked with the President to strengthen Obamacare."
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Sunday, October 4, 2015

Message from Onenessofall/Arcturian Group

OCTOBER 4, 2015 
Dear ones, in this time of change and new beginnings, we urge you to let go of any remaining expectations, for expectation only serves to hold you in concepts--mind pictures representing something you have read or listened to with regard to ascension. 
You are creating a new world, not forming it out of what is already known. Learn to rest in the "now" at all times, knowing that this is a spiritual universe and all are spiritual beings while allowing each day to unfold without resistance. This practice will lead you into an ever deepening consciousness of love and gratitude as you begin to see everything as being part of a Divine plan no matter how difficult or "unholy" it may appear to three dimensional thinking. 
As we have previously stated: This does not mean being a "doormat" or allowing oneself to stay in an unsafe environment. Lifetimes past and present held struggle and very little support for those seeking truth but those times have drawn to a close for most of you. You have done the work, often being punished for it and it is now time to rest, live, and be that which you have attained. One cannot stay in grade school after they are ready for high school or college just because a friend or someone close may still need grade school, or even because some "expert" says they must. 
 The time has come for all serious students of truth to move into their power as awakened spiritual beings, while at the same time moving courageously through whatever remnants of the "old " may still operate in or affect them. As an individual evolves into new and higher ways of resolving karmic issues and remaining lessons, he no longer needs the intense problems, accidents, and difficulties previously required for awakening. Most of you are there now. 
On earth there will always be difficulties of some sort whether yours or another's but now you have new, higher, and guided tools with which to resolve them. You are powerful beings of Light, but this truth must be acknowledged and lived until it becomes a state of consciousness and not just nice words in a book. If an individual is ready to take this step but refuses to leave what is old, comfortable, and familiar he will probably get "wake up calls" in the form of difficult experiences serving to force him deeper and into what he is spiritually ready for. Victimhood can no longer be a part of the consciousness of serious students of truth. Most are not aware of how much change is actually taking place. Note world movements for peace, animal rights, freedom of information, and other issues that 20 years ago would not of been considered important by the vast majority. 
Notice also how people are starting to take a long hard look at commonly accepted beliefs as well as examining more closely the motives and intent of world "leaders". 
You are reclaiming your innate power through listening to, resonating with, and living out from inner guidance instead of blindly aligning with the often limiting concepts of some expert, government, church, or person. You are learning to stand in the power of Self which does not mean that you can never be taught truth from an evolved minister, expert, teacher, or friend. However, bottom line must always be yours, based in an inner knowing of what is right and appropriate for you. 
We wish to speak of the new energies. Most of you were aware of the full moon and eclipse bringing high light frequencies. Do not believe that "nothing happened" based on appearances for new Light energies did come and are available but the integration of them only takes place as an individual is capable of receiving them. Very few are able to fully integrate high frequencies all at once because the physical, emotional and mental bodies must be prepared to accept and resonate with them. Never doubt that your Higher Self will see to it that you receive everything you are ready for as you are ready without effort on your part other than to live out from your highest sense of truth. Always remember that you are being guided, and assisted at all times. No one, not even the very un-awakened are ever left to struggle through a life on earth alone. Your job as evolving students of truth is to rest in the awareness that this is a spiritual universe, governed by Love, and peopled with spiritual beings. Do not spend time worrying about whether or not you are ascending or "doing it right". Living out from your highest sense of right in each moment is all that is required. So much third dimensional thinking regarding spirituality is limiting--how experiences must look or feel in order to be valid. These are concepts based in and handed down from someone's belief system. Experiences others may of had were valid for them, but may not necessarily be right for you. 
DNA will activate as you are ready, chakras will be clear and open as you are ready, and 5th dimensional experiences will happen as you are ready. All the courses taken, practices engaged in, and efforts put forth to attain these things can help, but the fullness of the experience cannot take place until the soul is prepared. Hold the intention to evolve while practicing what you already know and more will be given. Ascension does not simply drop into ones lap without preparation. Each step taken along the way of lifetimes adds to and finally brings forth a fully aware state of consciousness that results in your creations manifesting outwardly on increasingly higher levels. Love everything. Love the bad" as well as the "good". Love your faults and love those who do not love you. Love the thoughts that pop into your head that may cause you to react with fear, anger, resentment, jealousy etc. for there is nothing but GOD and as you learn to love everything, you stop giving appearances power causing them to lose their "punch". An evolved state of consciousness automatically dissolves old learned behaviors and beliefs such as being "less than" or "unworthy". 
Learn to laugh at honest mistakes and you will soon discover that the sky doesn't fall down, your Guides don't leave you, nor do you stop spiritually growing when you make a wrong choice. This is what lifetimes spent in the third dimension have been about--stepping and falling, stepping and falling.. You chose to be here and you learned. Most of you are now finding or will soon find yourselves assisting others to also grow and learn who and what they are. Rejoice in every opportunity whether it is just throwing out a seed of truth or actually teaching another but never seek out students, force, proselytize, or work to "save" someone for there is only ONE and that ONE doesn't need "saving". As you radiate more Light, you will attract some who seek to have your Light instead of finding their own. 
These dear ones are not usually interested nor prepared for the deeper truths. Those ready for what you may have to give them will find you. Trust your intuition and allow yourselves to be guided as to the readiness of any who seek you out. Keep your work with others on the level of compassion and not sympathy, for sympathy will align with the other's lower resonating energy. Compassion is a more detached way of viewing another's issues and allows you to offer the words necessary for the person to hear at their level of awareness while you continue to hold your Light.

[INFJ] The Development of INFJ Children

"The most important part of INFJs is their rich inner life, which is highly imaginative and capable of seeing unique possibilities everywhere. Often reserved and cautious children, INFJs may be reluctant to reveal their true and usually highly creative selves with others. Even then,..."   CLICK TO READ MORE

A year without shopping: One family's no-buy experiment - TODAY.com

When the pressure to buy ever more stuff overwhelmed Scott and Gabby Dannemiller, they embarked on what many parents would consider a "Mission: Impossible."
The couple vowed not to spend money on anything except life's basic essentials for themselves and their two kids for an entire year.
That meant no new toys, jeans, shoes, dresses, iPhones, games or furniture — anything that kept them trapped on what they called the "hamster wheel of life."    CLICK HERE TO READ MORE ABOUT HOW THEY DID IT!




"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"

"there were no words, but images flooded every cell in her being ...4 and a half decades!"