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HO'OPONOPONO...The essential meditation and therapy.

I did not discover Ho'Oponopono until some years into my clinical profession.  Simply pronouncing the word seemed somewhat odd;  seeing it as a therapy tool seemed even a bit of a stretch.  A stretch, I thought, especially when working primarily with adolescent males, to whom "touchy feely" or anything akin to meditation was eyebrow raising.  These young men had histories of abandonment, assaults on their abilities to feel espcially in front of peers, and a fundamental lack of belief in their inherent goodness. 

Once, when I was unprepared for a group due to a plethora of crises on a unit, I thought I would present Ho'Oponopono in a simple form.  My guilty expectation was that it might fall flat with them.  But...the group and evening turned out quite   differently.

Initially, they were cautious, glancing at other group members to evaluate each others' responses ... as only teens can do (!). In my corner was the fact that this was the last group before their bedtime, so a slight sense of the day's closure was present.

They responded like they loved it.  I, somewhat more skeptical, thought it would be interesting to see what evolved in their chatter after that.  

There was no chatter.  Egoistically, I thought, I was right.  

But two minutes into group, they asked if we could do "that 'HoPo' again"...And night after noight, the same.  It became an anticipated ritual.  It was one that was completely compatible with their individual senses of faith.  But more than that, the exercise is about culpabilty and personal responsibility
with a deepest of reverence for the human.

Ho'oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make right with the people with whom you have relationships. We believe that the original purpose of Ho'oponopono was to correct the wrongs that had occurred in someone's life including Hala (to miss the thing aimed for, or to err, to disobey) and Hewa (to go overboard or to do something to excess) which were illusions, and even 'Ino (to do harm, implying to do harm to someone with hate in mind), even if accidental.

This description is by no means a complete training in how to do Ho'oponopono. While appropriate to do for yourself, for yours and others safety, it should not be done with someone else without training.

For example, let's say your five-year-old grandson punched another five-year-old intentionally with hate in mind. If asked, then the one who was punched would forgive the other immediately, because it is inappropriate for anyone to carry guilt any longer than they had to, if it were not necessary.

We call this the Hawaiian Code of Forgiveness, and it's an important thought, because when we forgive others, who are we forgiving? Ourselves, of course.

If you are familiar with Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), there is a saying, "People are only doing the best they can with the resources they have available." If you've heard that before, it has to do with forgiveness. Think about it. As you do consider that you are included in "people."

In the Eastern traditions, too, there is a real tradition of being aligned with and cleaning up relations with the ancestors. In Japan, China, as well as the Hawaiian tradition, it is thought to be important to align and clean up any past problems that you've had in relationships, especially with relatives.

At the same time, perhaps there are family patterns you do not want. Certainly you have heard the saying, "We just don't do that in our family," or "That's the way it is in our family." What happens then, is that certain generational themes get passed along in families, like sadness or any number of different traits. Ho'oponopono will allow you to clean this up.

THEORY: We carry inside us as parts of the Unconscious Mind, all the significant people in our lives. (These parts of us often look very much like Carl Jung's archetypes.) Ho'oponopono makes it "all right" with them. The process of Ho'oponopono is to align with and clean up our genealogy as well as to clean up our relationships with other people in our lives.

The Process of Ho'oponopono:

1. Bring to mind anyone with whom you do not feel total alignment or support, etc.
2. In your mind's eye, construct a small stage below you
3. Imagine an infinite source of love and healing flowing from a source above the top of your head (from your Higher Self), and open up the top of your head, and let the source of love and healing flow down inside your body, fill up the body, and overflow out your heart to heal up the person on the stage. Be sure it is all right for you to heal the person and that they accept the healing.
4. When the healing is complete, have a discussion with the person and forgive them, and have them forgive you.
5. Next, let go of the person, and see them floating away. As they do, cut the aka cord that connects the two of you (if appropriate). If you are healing in a current primary relationship, then assimilate the person inside you.
6. Do this with every person in your life with whom you are incomplete, or not aligned.
   The final test is, can you see the person or think of them without feeling any negative emotions. If you do feel negative emotions when you do, then do the process again.

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While once thought of as a flash in the pan, Trump’s candidacy has proven to be a far bigger problem for the Republican Party than establishment figures ever expected. In coping with such a colossal headache, the Party seems to be following the Kübler-Ross model of grief – the model frequently used to describe how people come to grips with the death of a loved one.

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The Koch Brothers are About to Destroy Veterans' Health Care and No One Knows About It

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PLEASE GO TO THIS SITE, AND SIGN for protection for our troops!

WE PETITION THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION TO:

To allow military active duty, and veterans as well to be allowed to carry concealed firearms for protection.

We the people of the United States of America having witnessed to many killings of our men and women in the U.S. Military do hereby request that the laws of the land be changed to allow Active Duty, Veterans, and those allowed by local and state laws, be allowed to carry firearms on military bases, either openly or concealed.

Blood has been drawn to many times and too many of our military members have been killed without being able to defend themselves after having been disarmed by laws that do nothing but make them targets of those that wish to do them harm.

We need laws to be changed or created that allow our men and women to arm themselves, having been trained in the use of arms as part of their jobs, to protect themselves and those around them should they become targets for terrorist

Published Date: Jul 17, 2015

Issues: Defense, Firearms, Veterans and Military Families

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SIGNATURES NEEDED BY AUGUST 16, 2015 TO REACH GOAL OF 100,000

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TOTAL SIGNATURES ON THIS PETITION

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