What You Should Know About Walmart’s Raise | The Nation

"Besides, the modest wage hike still barely offsets the lag between associates’ earnings and shareholder gains in recent years. While wages have barely kept pace with inflation, during the “recovery” since 2007, Walmart has seen a 22 percent rise in profits per worker,according to The New York Times.

What would a fairer raise at Walmart look like? Workers have proposed their own simple—and surprisingly feasible—demand: $15 an hour, and full-time jobs. According to an analysis by the think tank Demos, Walmart could already afford this measure simply by redirecting about $6.6 billion away from its current practice of repurchasing its own shares—a tactic to artificially boost shareholders’ income—and boosting workers’ pay instead. This measure “could give its 825,000 low-wage employees a raise of $5.13 per hour, boosting productivity and sales.”    CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

O'Reilly's Flunkies Are Lashing Out Wildly as Scandal Grows | Alternet

"Bill O’Reilly continues his frenzied attacks on Mother Jones’ David Corn, even after at least seven former CBS colleagues have come forward, with varying degrees of outrage and disdain, to back up Corn’s reporting and...."  CLICK HERE TO READ MORE...

What Happens if You Refuse to Pay Off Your Student Debt? | The Nation

The debt strike, which launched Monday as part of the Debt Collective campaign, is led by the Corinthian Fifteen, former students of Everest College—part of the scandal-ridden for-profit Corinthian college chain. They’re undertaking financial civil disobedience against the private lending industry, demanding cancellation of federal student debts and voicing dissatisfaction with piecemeal debt relief programs. The actual financial impact of their campaign is negligible, but for the former students, this collective action is a way for them to reassert their economic sovereignty:

We paid dearly for degrees that have led to unemployment or to jobs that don’t pay a living wage. We can’t and won’t pay any longer. Repayment plans presented as a helping hand simply aren’t good enough. The wrong done to us is deeper than that.

Ann Bowers of Florida was drawn in by Corinthian’s Trojan Horse marketing, which convinced her that she could readily obtain an online degree to help restart her career in marketing, after years of being out of the workforce due to disability. But in exchange for a bloated federal loan burden of some $40,000, she received an anemic education—with coursework that was more like high school than college and classmates struggling with even the basics."..... CLICK HERE TO READ ARTICLE

The Secret, Taboo Aspects of Male Sexual Desire / Psychology Today

The Secret,Taboo Aspects of Male Sexual Desire

Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who holds doctorates in English and Psychology, is a clinical psychologist and author ofParadoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy.

psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201205/the-secrettaboo-aspects-male-sexual-desire

Through millions of anonymous Internet searches, men have repeatedly divulged some rather curious sexual interests. Exploring at length this most bountiful subject of human sexual desire, I’ve already discussed several of them. In this particular post, I’d like to focus on certain erotic predilections that most people would agree slip into the realm of the forbidden. And rightly or wrongly, such preferences are likely to be seen not as erotic but pornographic.

As in most things, there’s clearly a continuum operating here. Males’ most common X-rated computer searches are for youth. And although this preference may be a bit disconcerting, it hardly warrants being seen as perverted (as I’ve sought to explain earlier). Nor does men’s secondary, but substantial, interest in fifty-year-old women (which I’ve also attempted, rationally, to account for). But as we move farther out on the continuum — as we did in mylast post, discussing heterosexual men’s attraction to transsexual porn — more eyes can be expected to roll ... or eyebrows to rise.

Here I’d like to start by adding another dimension to my earlier discussion of the curious popularity of “shemale,” “T-girl,”or “ladyboy” porn. Then I’ll move on to other sexual topics that, however unfamiliar (or unsavory) to us, a good number of men find arousing. At some point, it will be patently obvious that we’re well into illicit territory.

As in the rest of the posts in this 12-part series (of which this is number eight), most of my points will be rooted in the research reported in Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam’s comprehensive volume on sexual predilections: A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire (2011). And what these two neuroscientists have to say about men’s fascination with penises will help us better understand why transsexual porn, featuring all the positive visual cues of the feminineplus the strange bonus of an erect male organ, can be so intriguing to men generally.

While it’s no doubt hypothetical, these authors suggest that — evolutionarily speaking — the sexual stimulation that the erect phallus embodies for males can be traced back to our primate ancestry. In this context, the male sex organ is associated not only with male-to-male aggression and marking territory, but also with making sexual overtures to females. And as well-known biologist (and equally well-known atheist) Richard Dawkins has suggested, the erect organ may be a signal of a male’s general health as well. (p. 41)

Ogas and Gaddam also talk about primitive human tribes and their rites involving the penis, including ones that might well be regarded as penis flaunting. As these authors half-seriously opine: “Historically, male exhibitionism has been considered a mental disorder. If that is the case, the Internet suggests we are a planet of mentally deranged men” (!). (p. 42) Of course, the impulse to publicly display one’s erect penis and actually doing so are worlds apart. Still, it’s worth noting that such an impulse (as outrageous or shameful as it may seem) is probably much more common than males would care to admit.
The authors go on to offer additional biological and anthropological explanations as to why erect penises — particular large ones — would so beguile a great number of heterosexual men (not to mention gays and bisexuals). But it’s probably sufficient to say here, as do Ogas and Gaddam, that there’s abundant evidence pointing to “the penis['s] special power to activate the male sexual brain” (p. 218). And, ironically, there’s just as much evidence to conclude that, for women, this particular part of a male’s anatomydoesn’t rank very high as a sexual cue for them.

In an earlier post I mentioned that the category MILF (“Mother [or Mom] I’d love to f**k”) was one of men’s most popular Internet searches. In fact, on PornHub, the world’s most heavily trafficked adult video site, “mom” is the single most popular entry for users. And Ogas and Gaddam note that “more men search for 50-year-olds than ... for 19-year-olds” (pp. 26 -27). But since I’ve already discussed some of the (fairly normal) reasons for this preference, it’s time to go one big step further out on the “sexual-cue continuum.”

By now, most of us are familiar with a term roughly synonymous with the porn category MILF: namely, cougar, referring to an older, more sophisticated women “on the prowl” for younger men. Yet how many of us have heard of the category GILF? (“Granny I’d like to f**k”)? And here we’ve clearly set foot on “squick” turf (i.e., sexual interests that most of us can’t help but experience as repugnant). Strangely, this search designation turns out to be more prevalent than most people might suppose. In 2010, Alexa (a company measuring traffic to different Web sites) listed 313 granny sites among its 42,337 adult sites. Relatively, a small number but still ...

Noting that “there’s an active and well-defined community of granny porn enthusiasts,” Ogas and Gaddam confess: “The popularity of GILFs presents a serious challenge for evolutionary science” (p. 31). Consequently, these authors seek to explain this remarkable phenomenon by observing that in Kenya and England — the two countries that reveal the greatest interest in granny porn — inadvertent societal messages to youth likely account for its occurrence.
In Kenya, for example, young people are enjoined to take up sexual matters with their grandparents. So these much older confidantes can become to their grandchildren diffusely associated with erotic arousal. In the United Kingdom, the inferred dynamic would work rather differently. Here we’re confronted with a connection between a boy’s developing sexuality and corporally punishing elderly matrons at boarding schools, widespread in the culture. Ogas and Gaddam quote a veteran of the adult industry, who suggests: “‘When a lot of [these men] were schoolboys, they were spanked or slapped or pinched by a schoolmarm. It might have been their first intimate contact with a woman’” (p. 31). And going beyond this reasonable speculation, I might add that the buttocks are full of nerve endings, such that in being spanked the adolescent’s ripening eroticism may well have been sparked. (And in fact, this sort of “imprinting” is how many kinks and fetishes get started — say, getting turned on by being paddled.)

The next topic I’d like to cover is the sexually arousing cue of transgression: that is, outrageous acts that are inordinately exciting precisely because they’re so fraught with danger. Interestingly enough, though this post centers on men’s secret or forbidden desires, these powerful activators of erotic impulse seem to be equally shared by women. Which indirectly suggests that there’s something about abandoning ourselves to our id and behaving in ways that are physically or socioculturally risky that can powerfully turn us on. Since, fortunately, very few of us are actually so reckless as to carry out such unrestrained fantasies, we can generally indulge in them with impunity. And doubtless the Internet affords us — at a safe remove from reality — ample opportunity to do so.

Note that the cue for arousal here doesn’t have to do with sexually-related body parts (the chief catalyst for male arousal) but with something situational — the reason that such cues are understood as psychological rather than physical or visual. Ogas and Gaddam are unable to find a logical societal, cultural, or evolutionary explanation for this (well) “uncivilized” preference. So by default, they attribute the phenomenon (in both sexes) to “a strange quirk of our brain wiring” (p. 176). As they describe it, our sympathetic nervous system, which controls many unconscious processes, is what governs our fight-or-flight response. This system, when confronted by something that scares us, prepares us to act by speeding up our heart, increasing muscular blood flow, and deepening our breathing. But — surprise! — the sympathetic nervous system also controls another autonomic behavior: namely, orgasm.
An ingenious experiment by two Canadian psychologists (too involved to provide details of) tested the hypothesis that it’s this part of the nervous system that affects our being sexually turned on: that is, through engaging in (or imaginatively identifying ourselves with) precarious acts — whether they’re illegal, immoral, taboo, or simply dangerous. And the study’s results support the notion that the same part of our nervous system that’s sensitive to threats is also able to engender a sexual reaction. If that’s the case, then actually, or vicariously, taking part in acts of transgression represent yet another source of arousal — and in both sexes. As Ogas and Gaddam put it: “Transgression ... could be a counterintuitive enhancement of erotic feeling due to our quirky brain wiring—an evolutionary by-product, rather than an adaptation” (p. 179). As in so much I’ve described, what seems peculiar or perverted might well be ingrained (or “inbrained”) in us.
One act of transgression that deserves special attention is sexual betrayal. But oddly enough, in these scenarios it’s not the husband but the wife who’s the transgressor. Ogas and Gaddam single out the subject of cuckold porn as immensely popular on the Web. And the question naturally arises as to why such a genre would so appeal to men—why it would be the second most popular interest (following Youth) for straight males on English-speaking search engines. How is it that just the thought of their wives cheating on them could lead men to experience intense arousal?

Ogas and Gaddam provide an evolutionary explanation for this seemingly masochistic fantasy. To them, it’s sperm competition(see pp. 182-84) — a physiological and behavioral adaptation “found in a dazzling variety of species” — that best accounts for the phenomenon. A man’s believing that his mate may have had sex with another male may compel him (because of such an adaptation) to have intercourse with her as soon afterwards, and as forcefully, as possible. His very jealousy may drive him to perform with a lust absent earlier, culminating in a quicker ejaculation and a “larger load” being deposited inside her, unconsciously calculated to oust the other males’s sperm.

As interesting, and possibly valid, as this analysis may be (and I’ve condensed it somewhat), I’d like to propose a simpler, non-evolutionary hypothesis for males’ common obsession with cuckold porn. This is one that seems to have been overlooked by these authors (and others as well). Let’s assume that the male’s relationship with his partner (1) is no longer novel (and novelty itself can incite substantial sexual excitement), and (2) is a committed one, with all the conflicts and complexities such a union inevitably brings to light. In such instances, he can’t really regard his spouse two-dimensionally — as a sex object. And as I’ve noted in previous posts, men generally are wired to be most turned on by women when they’re able, reductively, to “objectify” them. If my hypothesis is correct, then through imagining other males relating to their wife as really “hot” — and their spouse as wildly turned on (another key determinant for male sexual arousal) — through such “illicit” fantasizing (or, we might say, through bringing their “mirror neurons” into play) they can regenerate a sexual excitement that may have all but disappeared from the comparatively mundane circumstances of their married life.

As in my previous examples of secret or taboo male sexual preferences, I see cuckold porn as yet another clandestine interest. For how many men would be comfortable sharing such a predilection with their mate? One where, symbolically, not he but she is acting wrongfully and — much more than this — that he finds her sexual betrayal intensely arousing?

Doubtless, most males would also tend toward secrecy as regards disclosing their attraction to the submissive (vs. dominant) role in sexual interactions. As Ogas and Gaddam intriguingly point out: “Both males and females in several mammal species appear to possess both sexual dominance and sexual submission circuitry,” noting further that “both types of circuits are wired to the pleasure centers of the brain” (p. 199).

These authors observe that the joint category domination and submission represents the sixth most popular search topic on the meta- engine Dogpile. And it may well be that though most people prefer one mode of sexual interaction over the other, their preference is rather more flexible than fixed. Most fascinating, perhaps, is the fact that while sexual domination sites are unquestionably popular, sexual submission sites are more popular still — and have a majority male audience (!). These sites include a considerable variety of (we’ll call them) “submission specialties.” And some of them, frankly, depict scenes that are particularly degrading, humiliating, or squicky. (see p. 202) I’ll spare you the distasteful names for many of these sites, while simply making the point that virtually all of them display role reversal: a dominant female exploiting or abusing a submissive male.

To Ogas and Gaddam, the likeliest “neural” explanation for this anomaly — since, both biologically and socially, men are programmed for sexual dominance — is that “male fans of sexual submission porn are accessing the female submissive circuitry their brains share with women” (p. 203), a circuitry wired to their brain’s reward centers.

But whatever circuitry is responsible for such distinctly “unmacho” imaginings, it’s almost guaranteed that most men would strongly prefer their partners be kept in the dark about them.

NOTE 1: Perhaps males’ most bizarre erotic interest is transformation fiction (i.e., reading stories about men turned into women — and ultimately enjoying the sex change). This odd arousal cue is more suitably taken up, however, in my next-to-last segment (see below).

Love is like cocaine: The remarkable, terrifying neuroscience of romance - Salon.com

Excerpted from “On Romantic Love: Simple Truths about a Complex Emotion.”

"On popular websites, we read headlines such as “Scientists are finding that love really is a chemical addiction between people.” Love, of course, is not literally a chemical addiction. It’s a drive perhaps, or a feeling or an emotion, but not a chemical addiction or even a chemical state. Nonetheless, romantic love, no doubt, often has a distinct physiological, bodily, and chemical profile. When you fall in love, your body chemicals go haywire. The exciting, scary, almost paranormal and unpredictable elements of love stem, in part, from hyper-stimulation of the limbic brain’s fear center known as the amygdala. It’s a tiny, almond-shaped brain region in the temporal lobe on the side of your head. In terms of evolutionary history, this brain region is old. It developed millions of years before the neocortex, the part of the brain responsible for logical thought and reasoning."   CICK HERE TO READ

No Big Bang? Quantum equation predicts universe has no beginning

"The universe may have existed forever, according to a new model that applies quantum correction terms to complement Einstein's theory of general relativity. The model may also account for dark matter and dark energy, resolving multiple problems at once."   CLICK HERE TO READ THIS ARTICLE

US Healthcare Is So Screwed I Fly to Britain for My Medication | WIRED

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What Brain Science Can Teach You About Sex | Psychology Today

This book, though written primarily for the layperson, takes into account an immensity of research—as evidenced by a bibliography containing over 1,300 items. As relates to experimental methodology, its authors, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam (both with Ph.D.’s in cognitive neuroscience), decided to base their investigations on the almost inexhaustible tool that is the Internet. Contrary to interviewing individuals, or having them complete self-report inventories or questionnaires, they took advantage of the anonymity and unobtrusiveness afforded by the Web .....     CLICK HERE TO READ

Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Men|Borderline Personality Disorder in Men

CLICK HERE TO READ:  Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Men|Borderline Personality Disorder in Men

Covert Narcissism Vs. Inverted Narcissism (Self-Love): Settling The Score On Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder

CLICK HERE TO READ:  Covert Narcissism Vs. Inverted Narcissism (Self-Love): Settling The Score On Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder

How to Spot an Abuser Who Claims to be the Victim | A Cry For Justice

CLICK HERE TO READ:  How to Spot an Abuser Who Claims to be the Victim | A Cry For Justice

PLOS Medicine: A Comparison of DSM-IV and DSM-5 Panel Members' Financial Associations with Industry: A Pernicious Problem Persists

And we wonder why we are constantly pummeled by TV prescription drug ads, pharmacies and hospitals hounding us to get flu shots (which in this year have roughly about a 30% chance of success in the elderly, and "new" diagnoses every day (of course the y are ones which would benefit from pharmaceutical drugs).......PLOS Medicine: A Comparison of DSM-IV and DSM-5 Panel Members' Financial Associations with Industry: A Pernicious Problem Persists

Most adults would likely fail this 1912 8th grade test—try it

"Now HERE is a reality test!"  (So much for "No child left behind!)

Most adults would likely fail this 1912 8th grade test—try it

The Likely Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered and It Is Not What You Think | Alternet

The Likely Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered and It Is Not What You Think | Alternet

7 Big Lies 'American Sniper' Is Telling America | Alternet

"The film American Sniper, based on the story of the late Navy Seal Chris Kyle, is a box office hit, setting records for an R-rated film released in January. Yet the film, the autobiography of the same name, and the reputation of Chris Kyle are all built on a set of half-truths, myths and outright lies that Hollywood didn't see fit to clear up."  CLICK HERE TO READ....

Complex Post Traumatic Stress is a Common Response to a Narcissistic Relationship | After Narcissistic Abuse

Complex Post Traumatic Stress is a Common Response to a Narcissistic Relationship | After Narcissistic Abuse

Why Are Narcissists Are So Dangerous? | After Narcissistic Abuse

Why Are Narcissists Are So Dangerous? | After Narcissistic Abuse

“I Love You” – The Three Most Abusive Words Spoken By a Narcissist | After Narcissistic Abuse

“I Love You” – The Three Most Abusive Words Spoken By a Narcissist | After Narcissistic Abuse

Former SEAL Chris Kyle Allegedly Killed by Former Marine He Was Trying to Help - ABC News

Former SEAL Chris Kyle Allegedly Killed by Former Marine He Was Trying to Help - ABC News

Why Is the Real American Sniper -- a Hate-Filled Killer -- Being Treated as a Hero? | Alternet

When I read this exceptional review, I felt compelled to share it. As a part of my life's path, I have known several snipers, up close and personal. It has provided an acute sense of the folks they really are "down under".  While the views I have garnered are quite varied, no doubt because of the character of the person before they even engaged in that "job".  I say job, because there are many types of training, "employers", time in active duty, length of time performing the job, and the entire ecology of that person, etc. 

I confess, when in any danger, I would be thrilled to have one of these folks "at my six" with their generally superlative training and keen instincts.  At the same time, we would be naive not to take into account the percentage of sociopaths in any one of our services.  How a Kyle could have made it as far as he did, with his disturbing statements and clear proclivities, remains to be seen....and see we will.

The "Kyles" in our services/ops are a psychologically interesting sort with much that forms them.  So, my likely intention is to see the film. The trailers do intrigue me, not the least of which is Bradley Cooper, immensely pleasing to the eyes.  But that is a point from which to proceed...the eyes, that is.  In each of the trailers, Cooper plays the role with sharpness and clarity, in being able to fix his eyes in a vacuous, "sold my soul to the devil", "no one is really home here", chilling sort of way.  His wife is oblivious to this...amazing.  But it is clear something is stirring in her soul.  It may be that to really acknowledge that, she must face her own demons head on.  Whether she does that will be revealed in the film.

Quotes author and former Daily Beast writer Max Blumenthal. “Kill every male you see,”Rania Khalek quoted, calling Kyle an “American psycho”. 

But, see for yourself...let me make that, your Self. ~ by Madelaine Watson

Why Is the Real American Sniper -- a Hate-Filled Killer -- Being Treated as a Hero?

Retaliation from the rightwing twittersphere about the criticism of Chris Kyle was swift and violent.

By Lindy West / The Guardian

January 9, 2015

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"I have to confess: I was suckered by the trailer for American Sniper. It’s a masterpiece of short-form tension – a confluence of sound and image so viscerally evocative it feels almost domineering. You cannot resist. You will be stressed out. You will feel. Or, as I believe I put it in a blog about the trailer, “Clint Eastwood’s American Sniper trailer will ruin your pants.”
But however effective it is as a piece of cinema, even a cursory look into the film’s backstory – and particularly the public reaction to its release – raises disturbing questions about which stories we choose to codify into truth, and whose, and why, and the messy social costs of transmogrifying real life into entertainment."    CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE

Is the U.S. Crazy? | Alternet BY ANN JONES

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Is the U.S. Crazy?

Inquiring minds from around the world want to know.

By Ann Jones / TomDispatch

January 11, 2015

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"Americans who live abroad -- more than six million of us worldwide (not counting those who work for the U.S. government) -- often face hard questions about our country from people we live among. Europeans, Asians, and Africans ask us to explain everything that baffles them about the increasingly odd and troubling conduct of the United States.  Polite people, normally reluctant to risk offending a guest, complain that America’s trigger-happiness, cutthroat free-marketeering, and “exceptionality” have gone on for too long to be considered just an adolescent phase. Which means that we Americans abroad are regularly asked to account for the behavior of our rebranded “homeland,” now conspicuously in decline and increasingly out of step with the rest of the world.
In my long nomadic life, I’ve had the good fortune to live, work, or travel in all but a handful of countries on this planet.  I’ve been to both poles and a great many places in between, and nosy as I am, I’ve talked with people all along the way. I still remember a time when to be an American was to be envied. The country where I grew up after World War II seemed to be respected and admired around the world for way too many reasons to go into here.
That’s changed, of course. Even after......"  CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING

Q5: Can you tell us why EMDR works? - EMDR with Dr. Andrew M. Leeds Ph.D. - ONE80CENTER - YouTube

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The scientific evidence against spanking, timeouts, and sleep training - Quartz

Be aware that Bryson is NOT saying to abstain from any discipline and/or training.  (I can see the emails, now!)


"Bryson is not alone in this approach. She is part of a progressive new group of scientists, doctors, and psychologists whose goal is ambitious, if not outright audacious: they want to redefine “discipline” in order to change our culture. They want to rewrite, or perhaps more precisely said, rewire how we approach interacting with kids, and they want us to understand that our decisions about parenting affect not only our children’s minds, but ours as well."   CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING...)

Plash | The Power of Meditation and How It Helps Us Rediscover Happiness and Productivity

"Ever since my dad tried to convince me to meditate when I was about 12, I’ve been fairly skeptical of this practice. It always seemed to be so vague and hard to understand that I just decided it wasn’t for me.

More recently, I’ve actually found how simple (not easy, but simple) meditation can be and what huge...."CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING...

The Anti-Resolution That Could Change Your Life | Psychology Today

"There are many good reasons not to make New Years Resolutions. For one, we know from personal experience and from depressing statistics that they are highly likely to fail. The act of making grand resolutions every year, it turns out, isn’t always the best way to make positive and lasting changes. More often it just leaves us feeling frustrated and disappointed in ourselves....."CLICK TO CONTINUE

THE DULUTH WHEELS re:abuses (USED UNIVERSALLY)

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Thank you for your interest in Power and Control Wheel and other wheels developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (DAIP). We invite you to download any of the wheels linked to here and use them to inform and educate your staff, clients and partners.

Because DAIP supports its work through training and curriculum sales, we produce using the wheels, which are copyrighted, in any revenue-generating activity. Please let us know if you have questions about using the wheels.   Email -training@theduluthmodel.org

FAQs About the Wheels

Why was the Power and Control Wheel created?

In 1984, staff at the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project (DAIP) began developing curricula for groups for men who batter and victims of domestic violence. We wanted a way to describe battering for victims, offenders, practitioners in the criminal justice system and the general public. Over several months, we convened focus groups of women who had been battered. We listened to heart-wrenching stories of violence, terror and survival. After listening to these stories and asking questions, we documented the most common abusive behaviors or tactics that were used against these women. The tactics chosen for the wheel were those that were most universally experienced by battered women.

Why did you call it the Power and Control Wheel?

Battering is one form of domestic or intimate partner violence. It is characterized by the pattern of actions that an individual uses to intentionally control or dominate his intimate partner. That is why the words "power and control" are in the center of the wheel. A batterer systematically uses threats, intimidation, and coercion to instill fear in his partner. These behaviors are the spokes of the wheel. Physical and sexual violence holds it all together—this violence is the rim of the wheel.

Why isn’t the Power and Control Wheel gender neutral?

The Power and Control Wheel represents the lived experience of women who live with a man who beats them. It does not attempt to give a broad understanding of all violence in the home or community but instead offers a more precise explanation of the tactics men use to batter women. We keep our focus on women’s experience because the battering of women by men continues to be a significant social problem--men commit 86 to 97 percent of all criminal assaults and women are killed 3.5 times more often than men in domestic homicides1.

When women use violence in an intimate relationship, the context of that violence tends to differ from men. First, men’s use of violence against women is learned and reinforced through many social, cultural and institutional avenues, while women’s use of violence does not have the same kind of societal support. Secondly, many women who do use violence against their male partners are being battered. Their violence is primarily used to respond to and resist the controlling violence being used against them. On the societal level, women’s violence against men has a trivial effect on men compared to the devastating effect of men’s violence against women.

Battering in same-sex intimate relationships has many of the same characteristics of battering in heterosexual relationships, but happens within the context of the larger societal oppression of same-sex couples. Resources that describe same-sex domestic violence have been developed by specialists in that field such as The Northwest Network of Bi, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse, www.nwnetwork.org

Making the Power and Control Wheel gender neutral would hide the power imbalances in relationships between men and women that reflect power imbalances in society. By naming the power differences, we can more clearly provide advocacy and support for victims, accountability and opportunities for change for offenders, and system and societal changes that end violence against women.

Why did you create the Equality Wheel?

The Equality Wheel was developed not to describe equality per se, but to describe the changes needed for men who batter to move from being abusive to non-violent partnership. For example, the "emotional abuse" segment on the Power and Control Wheel is contrasted with the “respect” segment on the Equality Wheel. So the wheels can be used together as a way to identify and explore abuse, then encourage non-violent change.

Has the wheel been translated into different languages?

Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs has translated the wheel into Spanish. And, the wheel has been translated by many others worldwide. The wheel has also been adapted culturally, such as the wheel adapted by Mending the Sacred Hoop to reflect some of the tactics a Native American batterer might use against his intimate partner to control her.

Can I use or adapt the wheels?

Our wheels are copyrighted. They may be used in men's educational classes, groups for battered women or community education presentations as long as they are credited to the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project as noted on the wheels. For other uses, please submit a written request explaining the desired use and purpose to our National Training Project staff.

Programs wishing to adapt the wheels in any way should submit a written request to our National Training Project staff, explaining the desired use and purpose. In making our decision, we will look at how the adapted wheel reflects power imbalances between abusers and victims, if the segments have been carefully reviewed and edited and whether a wheel would be the most effective learning tools for the adaptor’s purpose. In addition, it is important that the content of the wheel come from focus groups with those experiencing the abuse. Requests are considered on a case by case basis.

Our National Training Project staff may be contacted at training@theduluthmodel.org.

How is the Power and Control Wheel used?

The wheel is used in many settings and can be found in manuals, books, articles, and on the walls of agencies that seek to prevent domestic violence. It has even been seen by millions on national television shows and soap operas!

Many women’s groups use the Power and Control Wheel. Battered women can point to each of the tactics on the wheel and clearly explain how these behaviors were used against them. They are able to see that they are not alone in their experience and more fully understand how their batterer could exert such control over them.

The wheel is also used in counseling and education groups for men who batter to help group participants identify the tactics they use. By seeing that their behavior is not atypical for men who batter, there is an impetus (for those who are motivated to change) to explore the beliefs that contribute to their behavior. The Power and Control Wheel is used in concert with the Equality Wheel to help group participants see alternate ways of being in a relationship with a woman, free of violence and controlling behavior.

The wheel is also used in a variety of settings to describe battering. For instance, in training for law enforcement or prosecutors, the wheel provides an explanation for why a victim might return to an abusive spouse or why victim is refusing to cooperate in a criminal prosecution.

The wheel makes the pattern, intent and impact of violence visible.

Can I purchase a poster-size version of the wheels?

Yes! Click here for our poster-size wheels.

AVAILABLE WHEELS (downloadable PDF):

• POWER AND CONTROL
• PODER Y CONTROL
• EQUALITY
• IGUALDAD
• CREATOR
• ABUSE OF CHILDREN
• NURTURING CHILDREN

A MUST LISTEN!! "Let's Pretend" from "SAVE THE CHILDREN" - Michael Crawford

This has been my favorite Christmas carol for the past 25 years...and it is more relevant than ever.  Each time I listen to it. I get tears in my eyes.  And I listen to it so many times!!  While it sounds like an unimaginable dream...and game...each of us has the profound gift of being able to so something to make this happen.

Michael Crawford's album is always the first to be played every year.... its seeming simplicity is tenderly "transparent" in it's passion for change.  It is a call to parents, teachers, and those dedicated to the welfare and growth of children. 

It is dedicated to every child...everywhere in the world...our children and grandchildren...and neighbor kids!!   I post the lyrics below, and in the video, you will become aware of Crawford's passion and global creative work for our children...it is palpable.

“LET’S PRETEND”

(from the Michael Crawford’s globally acclaimed musical “Save the Children”, 1988)

Let’s pretend that we can change the world in any way that we could…

Just as a game, let’s pretend.

Let’s pretend there came a time when people would do nothing but good,

And that it never would end.

Just imagine!!

Let’s pretend that everywhere injustices will cease in the world

I know it’s crazy, but try.

Let’s pretend that all at once one morning there was peace in the world,

And not one child had to cry.

If people don’t like our dream when we’re through,

We’ll pretend that people do, then they’d believe that it all will come true!

Let’s pretend that there is love all around!

Every child on earth grows up safe and sound!

Imagine it!!

Let’s pretend that children all start to ask for the moon!

It’s a children’s game,  all the same…..

Children grow up soon.

It’s a children’s game,  all the same…..
Children grow up soon.

Jennifer Hudson's O Holy Night

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2015. Song "Happy Christmas!

Pope: Vatican bureaucracy has 'spiritual Alzheimer's'

Pope: Vatican bureaucracy has 'spiritual Alzheimer's'

A MAN FOR ALL SEASONS!...Pope Francis launches blistering take-down of Vatican bureaucrats and their 'lust for power' in Christmas address - Europe - World - The Independent

"Pope Francis has launched a stinging attack on Vatican bureaucrats, denouncing them as "hypocritical" with a "lust for power" and guilty of "careerism and opportunism".
In his annual Christmas greeting to the cardinals, bishops and priests who run the Holy See, Pope Francis listed the 15 biggest "ailments" afflicting those running the Catholic Church for its 1.2 billion members...."

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For those who love clouds ~ from Spaceweather

POLAR STRATOSPHERIC CLOUDS: A possible outbreak of polar stratospheric clouds (PMCs) is underway around the Arctic Circle. Unlike normal grey-white clouds, which hug Earth's surface at altitudes of only 5 to 10 km, PMCs float through the stratosphere (25 km) and they are fantastically colorful. Ivar Marthinusen sends this picture of the phenonenon from Skedsmokorset, Norway: "Right after sunset on Dec. 22nd, the clouds were so bright they were uncomfortable to look at directly," says Marthinusen. Also known as "nacreous" or "mother of pearl" clouds, these icy structures form in the lower stratosphere when temperatures drop to around minus 85ºC. Sunlight shining through tiny ice particles ~10µm across produce the characteristic bright iridescent colors by diffraction and interference. Once thought to be mere curiosities, some PMCs are now known to be associated with the destruction of ozone. "Nacreous clouds far outshine and have much more vivid colours than ordinary iridescent clouds, which are very much poor relations and seen frequently all over the world," writes atmospheric optics expert Les Cowley. "Once seen they are never forgotten."