Thursday, June 30, 2011
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Sunday, June 26, 2011
"How to Love and Parent An 'Old Soul'
(A mother of seven uses a method called, “show, remind and tell” to raise a child who is an ‘old soul’)
GUEST COLUMN: DR. CHRISTINE JAX-CASTILLO — If you are a parent, you probably question if you are doing all that you can to ensure that your children find their own spiritual paths, and reach their full potential. You wonder how you can help your children progress on their spiritual journeys, while encouraging them to follow your rules.
How can you can teach them right from wrong, while teaching them to see the good in all things? How can you keep them safe, while relaying to them that fear is an illusion of the ego?
Now people are claiming that their children are “indigo” children or“old soul” children, and you wonder . . . are yours?
Because of your spiritual evolution and path, it is most likely that all your children, born or adopted, are “old soul” children. But remember, we are all special and all have a reason for being on this planet at this time: we are each here for individual spiritual growthand to inspire further growth in others, and, if you are a parent, you have agreed to juggle both. In the case of rearing an “old soul” child, you have agreed to expedite their spiritual development for their benefit, as well as for the benefit of humanity, as the children who are traveling this path have agreed to do so.
Common traits of “old soul” children
- Develop faster emotionally and intellectually than other children, yet may struggle in school due to constrictions on their creativity and critical thinking abilities
- Understand and demand justice long before such development is typically seen in children
- Demonstrate a global perspective and ask about people not like themselves
- Articulate a sense of charity and service; they want to help others
- Remember past lives
- Question the authority of adults and leaders, and demand respect for themselves
- Possess one or more “paranormal abilities:” ie. may see or communicate with non-physical beings such as angels, spirits, and ghosts; heal by touch; remember past lives; share mutual dreams with others; predict future events; sense when something is wrong; view remotely; experience astral projection
- Have a deep interest in religion or spiritual practices
- Communicate easily and actively with their guides, even if they have yet to identify what gives them knowledge about things
How to be a model parent for an “old soul” child
To raise an “old soul” child you need to model (show proper behavior), induct (bring out of the child what he or she already knows), and instruct (provide new information). I refer to this as “show, remind, tell.”
Show your children how to be good citizens and stewards of the earth, and be mindful that they are going to emulate much of your behavior. Also keep in mind that they will quickly recognize hypocrisy and just as quickly lose respect for you. Do your best to walk your talk. This means not using physical force, coercion, insults or shaming to get what you want, including proper behavior, from your child.
I always tell people, “If you wouldn’t do or say something to or in front of your boss, don’t do or say it to or in front of your children.”
You can model empathy by speaking your thoughts out loud: “I guess I should pick-up this box I dropped. It wouldn’t be nice to leave more work for the grocer.” Show grace in how you admit mistakes and don’t blame others. Find the good in all situations and in all people. When you are struggling with something someone has done, talk out loud to your child about how you are trying to understand their decisions without judging them.
Remember to teach love to all children
Remind your children of who they are and where they come from. Let them know everything is made out of the same energy, love, which makes all people equal and everything worthy of care and respect. Remind them that happiness is our right, and that it is found only in the moment because the past and present do not concurrently exist.
Help them remember that preparation for the next moment takes knowledge, good work, honesty, and faith; they will see whatever they believe and expect. Discuss with them how forgiveness is essential for personal growth and happiness; peace can only exist if there is forgiveness. It may help to develop meditative and spiritual practices with them as part of your lifestyle.
Tell them every day that you love them, and tell them regularly that you are proud of them and amazed by them. Let them develop with you the household rules and the consequences for breaking those rules. Make sure they understand why there are rules, and be consistent and calm when you enforce those rules and enact punishment. Give them opportunities to care for other people and to care for the earth. Tell your children to follow their dreams, and then give them space and advice for how to do so. Allow them to fulfill their dreams for themselves, not yourdreams for them.
Introduce your children to many different spiritual practices, including yours, but let them choose what is comfortable for them. Let them experience chanting, drumming, walking a labyrinth, sitting silently with incense — experiment. Point out to your children all that you have learned from other people and how much is achieved when people work together. Explain that there are multiple perspectives of, and reactions to, any situation.
Create a life for yourself beyond parenting so you can allow and encourage your child to grow beyond you, your beliefs, and your needs, but always, always be your child’s biggest fan.
Dr. Christine Jax-Castillo has a B.A. in Child Psychology, and a Ph.D. in Education. She is an author and international spiritual coach, consultant and speaker. She and her husband have seven children, ages 7 – 25, and they reside in West Palm Beach, Florida.
(Angel photo by Cyndi Ingle.)
Thursday, June 23, 2011
If this sickens you as much as it does I....please do one small thing to protest!!!!!!
No one has been able to explain to me why young men and women serve in the U.S. Military for 20 years, risking their lives protecting freedom, and only get 50% of their pay. While Politicians hold their political positions in the safe confines of the capital, protected by these same men and women, and receive full pay retirement after serving one term.
It just does not make any sense.
Monday on Fox news they learned that the staffers of Congress family members are exempt from having to pay back student loans. This will get national attention if other news networks will broadcast it. When you add this to the below, just where will all of it stop?
35 States file lawsuit against the Federal Government
Governors of 35 states have filed suit against the Federal Government for imposing unlawful burdens upon them. It only takes 38 (of the 50) States to convene a Constitutional Convention.
This will take less than thirty seconds to read. If you agree, please pass it on.
This is an idea that we should address.
For too long we have been too complacent about the workings of Congress. Many citizens had no idea that members of Congress could retire with the same pay after only one term, that they specifically exempted themselves from many of the laws they have passed (such as being exempt from any fear of prosecution for sexual harassment) while ordinary citizens must live under those laws. The latest is to exempt themselves from the Healthcare Reform... in all of its forms. Somehow, that doesn't seem logical. We do not have an elite that is above the law. I truly don't care if they are Democrat, Republican, Independent or whatever. The self-serving must stop.
Proposed 28th Amendment to the United States Constitution: "Congress shall make no law that applies to the citizens of the United States that does not apply equally to the Senators and/or Representatives; and, Congress shall make no law that applies to the Senators and/or Representatives that does not apply equally to the citizens of the United States ."
It just does not make any sense.
Monday on Fox news they learned that the staffers of Congress family members are exempt from having to pay back student loans. This will get national attention if other news networks will broadcast it. When you add this to the below, just where will all of it stop?
35 States file lawsuit against the Federal Government
Governors of 35 states have filed suit against the Federal Government for imposing unlawful burdens upon them. It only takes 38 (of the 50) States to convene a Constitutional Convention.
This will take less than thirty seconds to read. If you agree, please pass it on.
This is an idea that we should address.
For too long we have been too complacent about the workings of Congress. Many citizens had no idea that members of Congress could retire with the same pay after only one term, that they specifically exempted themselves from many of the laws they have passed (such as being exempt from any fear of prosecution for sexual harassment) while ordinary citizens must live under those laws. The latest is to exempt themselves from the Healthcare Reform... in all of its forms. Somehow, that doesn't seem logical. We do not have an elite that is above the law. I truly don't care if they are Democrat, Republican, Independent or whatever. The self-serving must stop.
Proposed 28th Amendment to the United States Constitution: "Congress shall make no law that applies to the citizens of the United States that does not apply equally to the Senators and/or Representatives; and, Congress shall make no law that applies to the Senators and/or Representatives that does not apply equally to the citizens of the United States ."
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Monday, June 20, 2011
Do Narcissists know they are using gaslighting tactics on their victim?
You may be surprised in discovering a form of "power and control" called "gaslighting".
Raymon Grace...more dedicated work from him!
Raymon Grace Foundation Joins with Emory & Henry College to sponsor River Clean Up on the North Fork of the Holston River March 26 and April 21, 2011  Howdy Folks, Once upon a time a well known news commentator, Paul Harvey, told a story that made an impression on me. It was from his ‘The rest of the story’ series. On April 13, 1800, Tom, a 57 year old man was making a list of his lifelong accomplishments and at the top of the list he wrote how he had gotten a group of people together and cleaned up the Rivanna River back in 1763. This was a man of many accomplishments including being President of the United States, and he put cleaning up a river at the top of his list. His name was Thomas Jefferson. Maybe I can understand a bit of how he felt. Today a group of over 20 volunteers from Emory & Henry College arrived to pick up trash from along the banks of the North Fork of the Holston River. This was immediately followed by Deputy Sheriff Tim Chapman driving a truck and trailer assisted by 2 inmates to haul away the trash. These efforts were the second such cleanup this year coordinated by the Upper Tennessee River Roundtable, a non-profit organization working in cooperation with Emory & Henry College, Washington County Sheriff Dept. and the Raymon Grace Foundation. This was part of Keep Southwest Virginia Beautiful, the largest regional affiliate of Keep America Beautiful, which is the lead organizer for the Great American Cleanup. This is an annual national event taking place March through May with millions of volunteers participating in such events. Now Thomas Jefferson’s work crew were moving logs and rocks to clear the river for navigation for commerce. We were clearing the river from the trash that would be picked up in the next flood. Trash consisted of such things as old tires, plastic bags, stuffed animals, food containers, cans, fabric and all manner of car parts, just to name a few. For 36 years I have picked up trash, washed down from upstream where people have dumped it along the road near the river. In the past few years the Upper Tennessee River Roundtable has been working to clean up streams and we have joined forces with them to help. The Raymon Grace Foundation established a ‘Foundation Chair’ with Emory & Henry College to provide for annual cleanups of the river from now on. Our Foundation also funded a ‘water table model’ to be used in schools to show how the water table is polluted by dumping trash and chemicals on the ground. We have also funded Appalachian Sustainable Development, another non-profit organization which goes into schools with information about respect for water and growing food. My daughter April is involved with these organizations. In this area, people dump trash in the river because that is what they have seen all their lives. Trash dumpsters are located throughout the area, but people are creatures of habit. Ignorance and lack of respect are the basic causes of this type of pollution. With chemical pollution, greed is a factor. Hopefully, by going into the schools to teach kids about respect for the water and the earth will produce a generation of smarter and more respectful people. Am writing this today to show you what can be done when people work together. What we did today can be done all over the world. It just takes someone to do something rather than talk about it. I didn’t start the Upper Tennessee River Roundtable or the Washington County Sheriff Department or Emory & Henry College, all I did was join forces with them for a common cause. Over 25 years ago I set a goal to clean up water and hoped to find a way to do it throughout the world. At the time I didn’t have a clue as to how to accomplish this, so I started picking up trash from the river on my farm and at the beach. Later I learned how to change the energy in a cup of water, then to energize a swimming pool, then how to take pollutants out of a well. Now our information on how to change the energy of water and clean it up is available in 48 countries. See what can be done by setting a goal and working toward it. You can do the same thing in your community!!! Remember, if you do nothing—nothing will happen. If you do something then something will happen---SO DO SOMETHING!!! Raymon | ||
Friday, June 17, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Obama and the Extraterrestrial Lobby ~ Utne/Bennett Gordon
12/30/2009 1:06:04 PM
Barack Obama’s “hope” and “change” campaign slogans meant many things to many people. For some UFO fanatics, Obama’s election represents the hope that the government will finally come clean about its “truth embargo” on the existence of extraterrestrials on Earth. The latest issue of The Washington Monthly profiles Stephen Bassett, Washington’s only registered UFO lobbyist. Basset and other UFO enthusiasts believe that Obama’s commitment to transparency and disclosure will lead to a formal admission that aliens have been on Earth for some time. Then the government can finally release all that alien technology—including the cures for cancer, global warming, and the engergy crisis—that it’s been sitting on for so long. Summing up the change that UFO enthusiasts have been waiting for, the Washington Monthly reports, “If Obama doesn’t announce the existence of aliens in early 2010, they say, he certainly will in the next few years.”Source: The Washington Monthly (Article not yet available online)
The Self-Compassionate Caregiver ~ Margaret Aldridge
by Margret Aldrich in the Utne Reader
Those who have taken care of a seriously ill partner, a child with special needs, or an incapacitated parent on a long-term basis know the relentless, sapping strain of it. Kristin Neff—a professor of human development and mother of an autistic son, writing for Psychology Today—opines that every caregiver should practice self-compassion to “recharge our batteries and have the emotional energy needed to serve others.”
What, exactly, is self-compassion? Neff turns to the writings of various Buddhist scholars to draw out three main components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. She explains:
Self-kindness refers to the tendency to be caring and understanding with oneself rather than being harshly critical or judgmental. Common humanity involves recognizing that all humans are imperfect, fail and make mistakes. Mindfulness involves being aware of one’s painful feelings in a clear and balanced manner so that one neither ignores nor obsesses about disliked aspects of oneself or one’s life.
Though we can all benefit from practicing self-compassion, Neff sees it as crucial for overburdened, and sometimes underappreciated, caregivers. “Not only will it help to get through difficult situations,” she says, “it will lead to greater happiness and peace of mind.” She continues:
As a mother of a child with autism, I can tell you what a lifesaver self-compassion was for me…. When my son screamed and screamed because his nervous system was being overloaded and I couldn’t figure out the cause, I would soothe myself with kindness. When my son lost it in the grocery store and strangers gave me nasty looks because they thought I wasn’t disciplining my child properly, I’d give myself the compassion I wasn’t receiving from others. In short, self-compassion helped me cope, and that put me in the balanced emotional mind state needed to deal skillfully with whatever new challenges confronted me.
Want to find out how much self-compassion you have? Take Neff’s online test.
Source: Psychology Today
Image by kevinpoh, licensed under Creative Commons.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
North Carolina GOP Overrides Veto, Axes Planned Parenthood Funding
North Carolina GOP Overrides Veto, Axes
Planned Parenthood Funding
First Posted: 06/15/11 12:52 PM ET Updated: 06/15/11 01:00 PM ET
Republican state representatives in North Carolina voted to override Democratic Gov. Bev Perdue's veto of the state budget Wednesday morning, ensuring that a provision to strip all federal and state money from Planned Parenthood will take effect on July 1. North Carolina is now the third state, after Indiana and Kansas, to defund the family planning provider because it also provides abortions.
Planned Parenthood of North Carolina (PPNC), which has nine clinics across the state, provides affordable birth control, preventative health care and family planning services to over 25,000 men and women. Without the $434,000 a year it usually receives in state and federal funds, Planned Parenthood says it will now have to axe its teen pregnancy prevention and adolescent parenting programs and force its low-income patients to pay out of pocket.
"The biggest impact is gonna be on the men and women we serve," said Melissa Reed, vice president of public policy for Planned Parenthood Health Systems. "There are 12- to 14-week waits for women to get into the health department for birth control or breast cancer screenings, but we can see patients the very same week. The health department relies on Planned Parenthood to fill that gap, and now we will be prohibited from serving as that essential safety net provider."
PPNC receives funds through the Title X Family Planning Program and state-funded birth control programs as a way to provide discounted pap tests, cancer screenings and birth control for low-income, uninsured patients. The Hyde Amendment prevents state and federal money from being used to pay for abortions.
Unlike Indiana, which blocked Planned Parenthood's ability to contract with Medicaid, North Carolina clinics will continue to be able to serve Medicaid recipients. It's the low-income, uninsured patients who don't qualify for Medicaid that now be falling through the cracks, Reed said, since PPNC will no longer be able to offer them the same low-cost services.
Conservative state lawmakers have been flogging Planned Parenthood for its association with abortions this past week during debates over the defunding bill and another bill that would restrict access to abortions. Rep. Pat McElraft (R-Emerald Isle) told her colleagues on the House Floor a tearful story about her nephew and his girlfriend's experience with Planned Parenthood 14 years ago.
"She went to Planned Parenthood, asked them what her choices were," she said. "They told her she would have a deformed baby because of her drug use, her only option was abortion."
"He went with her to what she describes as a very dark house. In that very dark house, a nurse attended to her. My nephew asked the nurse if she could at least see the ultrasound. The nurse said, 'I can't do that, I'll get fired.'"
McElroy later admitted that the incident happened in Georgia, not North Carolina, and that the "dark house" where the abortion occurred was actually not a Planned Parenthood clinic. The family planning provider estimates that abortions account for less than 3 percent of the services it provides.
According to a recent poll, 57 percent of North Carolina voters oppose the measure to defund Planned Parenthood and teen pregnancy prevention programs, and Reed said people have already started sending donations to keep PPNC afloat.
"Beginning at 7:30 a.m. this morning, we had donations coming in," she told HuffPost. "North Carolinians really support Planned Parenthood and are stepping up to support our efforts."
Planned Parenthood of Indiana received an unprecedented $116,000 in donations from across the world after it was defunded in May, allowing it to continue serving its Medicaid patients for more than a month after the bill took effect.
Reed said PPNC is now considering all options -- including litigation against the state -- to hang onto its low-income patients. A similar lawsuit is currently being heard in Indiana.
"They are using the budget to punish Planned Parenthood for other services we provide, such as abortion care, which does not even use any of this money," Reed said. "They can't legally do that."
Like the House, the North Carolina Senate is expected to vote to override the veto. That vote is scheduled for Wednesday afternoon.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
"Where the Hell Is Matt?"
From Wikipedia:
Matt Harding was known by his friends for a particular dance, and while video recording each other in Vietnam, his travel companion suggested he add the dance. The videos were uploaded to his website for friends and family to enjoy. Later, Harding edited together 15 dance scenes, all with him center frame, with the background music "Sweet Lullaby" by "Deep Forest". The original Song uses samples from a dying Solomon Islands language which was recorded in 1971 by a French ethnomusicologist at the Solomon Islands near Papua New Guinea. The song, "Rorogwela" was sung by a young woman named Afunakwa. According to the video "Where the Hell is Afunakwa" by Matt Harding, Afunakwa died in 1998.
The video was passed around by e-mail and eventually became viral, with his server getting 20,000 or more hits a day as it was discovered, generally country by country due to language barriers, before the launch of major video upload sites.
Harding created a second version of the video in 2006, with additional dancing scenes from subsequent travels, called "Dancing 2006". At the request of Stride, a gum brand, he accepted sponsorship[11] of this video, since he usually travels on a limited budget.
Harding released his third dancing video on June 20, 2008. The video is the product of 14 months of traveling in 42 countries. The background music/song of this video is known as "Praan" composed by Garry Schyman and sung by Palbasha Siddique, with lyrics adapted from the poem "Stream of Life," a part of the Gitanjali by Rabindranath Tagore.[12]
As of August 2008, Harding is represented by Creative Artists Agency.[13] His videos are viewable on YouTube, Google Video, Vimeoand his own site wherethehellismatt.com. His "Where the Hell is Matt? (2008)" video has been watched over 33,555,501 times on YouTube and Harding's YouTube channel is ranked "#83 - Most Subscribed (All Time) - Directors" as of December 22, 2010.[14][15]
Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Form of Forgivness
Ho'Oponopono is the ancient Hawaiian art of forgiveness, loving and personal accountability. Since I was introduced to this I use it several times each week to close my day. On a whim, I used it for meditation with some of the adolescent male therapy groups I facilitate. To my great surprise they loved it, and ask for it over and over. It has become a bonding process between all of us, and a process to see All as One.... to engender empathy and create a fresh beginning for a new day.
(The breathing directions are about using EFT techniques and breathing with it, which further enhance the depth of the meditation.)
Do We Need a New Way of Living?
by Kingsley Dennis, Ph.D. (sociologist, writer)
It is no understatement to say that the human species has entered a period of profound, fundamental, and unprecedented change. As such we need to acquire new skills in order to co-exist with a world seeking to exist at a greater depth within the larger fabric of life: planetary, solar and cosmic. Every evolutionary/revolutionary change requires a change in consciousness; this has always been the case. We are slowly beginning to recognize this fact and to notice a change in our psychology and consciousness. Philosopher and humanist Ervin Laszlo has outlined what he calls the "Ten Benchmarks of an Evolved Consciousness," which includes living in ways that enable all other people to live as well; living in ways that respect the lives of others and that respect the right to the economic and cultural development of all people; to pursue personal fulfillment in harmony with the integrity of nature; and working with like-minded people to preserve or restore the essential balances of the environment.
These benchmarks of an evolved consciousness, as Laszlo outlines, suggest a transcendent mind that forms relations and ties both locally and globally, both physically and non-physically. These again support the precepts of a quantum-field consciousness that embraces the local field of the person as well as having non-local influence. These traits may form what is increasingly being viewed as an ecological identity; perhaps even the stirrings of the cosmic self? The person acts and behaves both as an individual and as a part of the greater connected whole. These multiple relations form a more varied, rich and complex life; what psychology professor Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi terms as essential for an evolving self. Csikszentmihalyi believes that a truly fluid evolving self needs to seek out and be involved in a range of activities and relations that stretch the self; to find new challenges and the commitment to develop new skills and learning. Another trait of an evolving transcendent self, notes Csikszentmihalyi, is the "mastery of wisdom and spirituality"; meaning the ability to see beyond the appearance of things, and to see through deceptions: to "grasp the essential relationship between the forces that impinge on consciousness." Also important in Csikszentmihalyi's framework for harmonious evolution is our ability to "invest psychic energy in the future." By this he means that a person should not only have trust in what is to come, but also to actively engage with "unforeseen opportunities" to build toward a positive and constructive future.
What both Laszlo and Csikszentmihalyi are effectively saying is that a transcendent, evolving consciousness develops through those who engage in human activity that expresses both greater individuation and a greater sense of oneness and unity. An evolving consciousness would also reflect the understanding that conscious energy is primary, and be aware and open to ideas and impacts of evolutionary and spiritual thinking. The view that consciousness is a primary force/energy in our reality is the key to helping people expand their consciousness and identify with ever more non-local ties and responsibilities: from one's family and community to the world, all life on Earth, and eventually to all life in our known universe. It is our materialistic thinking that has become dysfunctional and which now forms the backbone to a form of social pathology which has little idea or social index of how to measure our quality of life. These days a country's GDP only serves to indicate a country's economic inefficiency and says nothing about the well-being of its citizens. Negative social attributes have become rewards for our global economic system and for the modern way of life. Our social relations have for too long been representative more of an exchange of economic values and goods rather than our emphatic well-being. It seems as if we have been living within a "topsy-turvy" upside-down reality.
In an interesting study that links brain science to investment behaviour, researchers concluded that people with an impaired ability to experience emotions could actually make better financial decisions than other non-impaired people. This research is part of a new academic interdisciplinary field called "neuroeconomics" that explores the role biology plays in economic decision making, by combining insights from cognitive neuroscience, psychology and economics. This new study, published in the journalPsychological Science, shows that people with brain damage that impaired their ability to experience emotions outperformed other people in an investment game. The study suggests that a lack of emotional responsiveness gives people an advantage in economic circumstances as emotionally impaired people are more willing to take high risks because they lacked fear. Players with "normal" brain wiring, however, are more cautious in their dealings and interactions. A co-author of the study has even suggested that people who are high-risk takers or good investors may possess a form of "functional psychopathy." There we have it then, neuroeconomics has confirmed that our upside-down world is partly run by people who are social psychopaths. No wonder the old systems are failing us, and our so-called "modern societies" are suffering from the effects of embedded socio-cultural disorder, disequilibrium, and disharmony. It makes us wonder how our systems of politics and economics would be different if we all accepted and understood that consciousness is primal and that our thoughts are at the root of everything that manifests in our lives. In other words, how would human life be if we shifted from being "functional psychopaths" to being transcendental evolutionary agents?
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